|I've shared before about a friend... [message #747668]
||Sun, 22 April 2012 16:59
| Sherry in NH
Registered: April 2005
Location: Small Town New Hampshire
...who walked away from the relationship, without explanation and does not respond to overtures. I suspect it's something with her husband, but am not sure.|
Because I don't know exactly what the situation is, I feel unsure about this. I heard about a year ago that she is sick, very sick. Really, really sick.
Recently, though an odd set of events, at a professional office, I talked to someone who is a mutual friend. She gave me a brief update and said that she's doing a little better, but that they are not doing well financially, since they only can have one income now that she is sick.
I know several other families who shared over the last year in various situations, that they knew that she was sick and that they would like to help if they could figure out what to do. I said to the mutual friend: if you ever hear that they need meals, say, I can get the church ministry or this small group of mutual friends to provide meals.
The friend said: what they really need is money for gas. Turns out that they've been driving back and forth to the city to go to a hospital for her treatments.
However, the friend does not know (as far as I know) the awkward situation between the sick friend and I. I did broach to her not to discuss with the sick friend, but if I could collect up a bit of gas money or gas cards from our mutual friends, could this other friend give it anonymously? She'd be glad to.
Anyway, I can certainly do that. If, however, the sick friend knew where the money was coming from, it might cause issues, unknown to me, because I don't understand what's going on. It might make her feel badly.
Is this a case of: if she who knows to do good doeth it not, to her it is sin? is it the better part of valor to stay out of it? should I follow this friend's suggestion as far as it will go? is there anything else you'd like to suggest or throw in?
I'm feeling really unsure...
[Updated on: Mon, 23 April 2012 09:40]
Sherry from NH