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Forum: TitusTwo
 Topic: Looking for volunteer(s)
Looking for volunteer(s) [message #306596] Sun, 22 July 2007 09:46
Lisa L. in Pa.  is currently offline Lisa L. in Pa.
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Ladies, I am in need of some parenting advice (11 year old dd) that I don't want to post about on here. I would be so grateful if someone would be willing to help me with this through PMs. Thank you all so very much.


Wife to dh since '91

Mama to...
DD '96
DS '06
And three babies in Heaven

**Enjoying our 12th year of homeschooling!**

 Topic: Excellent Book
Excellent Book [message #308563] Mon, 06 August 2007 23:47
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Same Kind of Different as Me: A Modern-Day Slave, an International Art Dealer, and the Unlikely Woman Who Bound Them Together
by Ron Hall (Author), Denver Moore (Author)

Story of amazing power of God to transform people -- esp. in tough times. Clear description of painful experiences, so not a book to place in hands of under 16, unless working through it with a parent.


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: How is your hearing?
How is your hearing? [message #311904] Fri, 17 August 2007 12:34
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You Can’t Hear When you Won’t Listen!

The future rewards that Christ Jesus plans for the church – you and me – defy our imaginations! For those who overcame, we will have food from the tree of life, in the Paradise of God; protection from the second death; a new name; authority over the nations; the morning star; white garments and an inexpugnable name in the Book of Life, and an inheritance of sonship. (Rev. 2:7, 11, 17, 26-28; 3:5,12, 21; 21:7)

Those who overcome are those who will have mastered, who have subdued, gotten the better of, conquered what the Lord condemns: the loss of our first love, Christ; false teaching, suffering, persecution, idolatry, immorality, weakness, blindness, materialism. Each condemnation is associated with a specific church, but also personal. No Christian can read Christ’s revelation to John and not recognize our own failure to love Him best, first, and foremost, and inability to care for others as much as we care for ourselves.

So, we lament our helplessness – often excusing our failures. It’s just who I am – how I was made, some say, whose battle with sin does not relent. What we confess at night, roars back; what we give over in the morning, leers at us in the afternoon – and at midnight we count our failures, again. Money, anger, drugs and alcohol, cutting, food, pornography, doubt and unbelief seem easier companions than love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. ( Gal 5:22-23)

How can a promise enable us to keep the greatest commandment, and overcome worship disorders and wrecked relationships? Where does help come from? Christ told the churches it comes from hearing – from listening to what the Spirit says. (Revelation 2:7,11, 17, 29; 3:6, 13, 22; Romans 10:17)

What are you listening to, friends?

Usually I listen to myself – rehearsing, rehashing, resenting, resisting what is on my plate today. I don’t like the daily bread! So, I rehearse my doubts; I rehash a monologue of failures; I resent temptations, and resist the ways of escape, Then I moan that I am undone! I lament: What good is future hope when today’s I am ensnared by a web of my own making, woven with circumstances beyond my control! (Romans 7:24)

God says we overcome when we listen; when we listen, we hear – though sometimes His words are unbearable! He knows us, and our circumstances, from first to last, whether in our stubbornness, or pursuit of righteousness. (Isaiah 46:3-4,12; 51)

The Holy Spirit asks me why I invest so much in what will never satisfy – rehearsing, rehashing , resenting, resisting. “ Why do you spend your money on junk food, your hard-earned cash on cotton candy? Listen to me, listen well: Eat only the best, fill yourself with only the finest. Pay attention, come close now, listen carefully to my life-giving, life-nourishing words. I'm making a lasting covenant commitment with you, the same that I made with David: sure, solid, enduring love. (Isaiah 55:2-3 from THE MESSAGE )

And that lasting covenant is mercy – free, unmerited, and unending! (Psalm 52:8)

When your heart hurts because of what others have done to you, remember His mercy. (Lamentations three, esp. 22) When your heart is hurting because of what you can’t rise above, remember His mercy which identifies with you, saved and redeemed you, and lifts you up and carries you. (Isaiah 63:9)

We have a hope and a future, right now. May our hearts hear what our ears miss! (Jeremiah 29:11)











You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: How is My Worship
How is My Worship [message #316149] Tue, 28 August 2007 12:20
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Worship – in English means the worthiness of the one to whom homage is paid – It is first of all a verb, and then a noun. Worship is 24/7 – waking or sleeping, HE needs be my vision

It is what we do with our lives, and it is where we go once (or more) a week. Romans 12:1says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God-- this is your spiritual act of worship.”

Worship arises in my spirit – which GOD brought to life from death; Spiritual worship [too often] clashes with the worship my flesh contents itself with. What appeals to my senses may not express what my new heart knows.

Worship is me before God, showing HIM the love that grows because of His indwelling spirit. Therefore, when I neglect His word, my worship is puny – like an athlete who shows up for the game having eaten only junk food – and taken no water. Then my flesh scores a point, or two, and I stumble . . . But my “Audience” is also my “Coach.” He rights my worship, drawing me deeper, making me willing to look beyond my senses.

John 4:23 says: Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. He shows me the music, the preaching, the fellowship once a week are but 1/168 of my life before Him. It’s “easy” to be faithful, once a week – although my flesh often wars with my heart just as voraciously on Sunday. Remaining devoted to Him outside Sunday is a different matter. Therefore, remembering my GOD is a jealous God informs my worship. (Exodus 34:14-15)

Therefore, when I get caught up in the externals – I risk dividing my heart into the compartments of worship that Paul warns against: “. . . we who worship by the Spirit of God, who glory in Christ Jesus, and who put no confidence in the flesh –” (Phil 3:3)

I confess I get caught up in the externals of worship so often! And the externals can clog up hearts – so my prayer remains that I keep seeking God with a heart that longs to find Him, approving the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart.


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: Thank you ladies
icon14.gif  Thank you ladies [message #316581] Wed, 29 August 2007 11:14
KarenB  is currently offline KarenB
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When you hear of being sisters in Christ it is often just a cliche.

But my last post proved that you are sisters in the truest sense.

You gave me a hug, and then whopped me upside the head and told me (in a loving way of course) to stop being such a goof. Smile

Thank you for the Scripture. Nothing like the Word when your soul needs some comfort food.


I serve a Risen Savior.

 Topic: Feeling the Love We Hear.
Feeling the Love We Hear. [message #319047] Tue, 04 September 2007 21:40
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The leper had petitioned publically – "Lord, if thou wilt, thou canst make me clean." (Mark 1:41; Matt 8:2-4; Luke 5:12-14) And Christ healed that man so perfectly through His word and His touch, he could show himself to a priest, restored. (Mark 1:44) The Lord said simply "I will; be thou clean." (Mark 1:41)

Can you imagine crying out to the Lord in from of a crowd – and experiencing His word and His touch? We don’t do that so much in the church – falling down before the Lord, publically crying for healing – and then showing ourselves to priests?

Probably we don’t because we fear the rejection that comes when we describe our “disease.” Drunkenness, sexually dysfunctional proclivities, emotional disorders, unbelief – these are not ways in which we wish to be known – especially around church folks. We don’t want to be labeled, “untouchable.”

If I told you what my sins are – the ones from which He redeemed and daily delivers me, what would you do? If you told me yours, how would my words help; how would my touch restore?

Do you think Christ wants you and I cleansed? C. H. Spurgeon had quite an answer:
Quote:

“. . . Redemption like Creation has its word of might. Jesus speaks and it is done. The sinner is in a plight more miserable than the leper; let him imitate his example and go to Jesus, ‘beseeching Him and kneeling down to Him.’ Let him exercise what little faith he has, even though it should go no further than ‘Lord, if thou wilt, thou canst make me clean’; and there need be no doubt as to the result of the application. Jesus heals all who come, and casts out none . . . ”


Not only did He say the leper was clean, Jesus touched the leper – He put Himself in the path of Levitical defilement. I have been told, and I believe I am cleansed; I wish, though, I might feel His touch – a reassuring pat, a restraining arm – a loving embrace, from the hand that Spurgeon described as that
Quote:

“. . . hand which multiplied the loaves, which saved sinking Peter, which upholds afflicted saints, which crowns believers, that same hand will touch every seeking sinner, and in a moment make him clean. The love of Jesus is the source of salvation. He loves, He looks, He touches us, WE LIVE.”


So,
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“Live creatively, friends. If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day's out. Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ's law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived. Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don't be impressed with yourself. Don't compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. (Gal 6:1-5 from THE MESSAGE)


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: Challenge time
Challenge time [message #359531] Wed, 12 December 2007 10:28
Laura in VA  is currently offline Laura in VA
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I posted this in our DHGG thread for today...but wanted to be sure everyone saw it.

I've gone to this revival at a church nearby the last three nights...and God has done amazing things. But one of the blessings was I got to see a dear man...someone whom I just think the world of, for the first time in a long time. We used to go to church together...he left a couple years ago, never said why, and I didn't ask...didn't matter...I know he left because he had to, God was leading him. Anyway...besides my Dh and my Daddy, this is the greatest man I know...he has just been the greatest example of what a christian should 'look like'. He has a joy that lights up his eyes, he cares about people with a real love. I could go on and on. Anyway...one of the greatest treats was to get to see him these last three nights. And I was thinking yesterday...I don't know if I'll get to see him again this side of glory. It's usually a year or so inbetween when I see him. He's older...never been married. So it occured to me yesterday...I need to tell him...I need to let him know that even though I only see him once in a blue moon...I love him and think of him and pray for him.

So last night...in the midst of catching up with a group of old church memebers I haven't seen in awhile, he came up. And I told him just that. Well actually I told him I had a thought...which lead to the 'did it hurt? I had one about 30 years ago...still haven't recovered lol" And I said "you know...I don't know if I'll see you again this side of glory or not" to which he replied "that's true..that goes for all of us though" And I said "but I just wanted to be sure you knew I love you...I just think you're the best" And he hugged me and thanked me...and said 'I really needed that...sometimes you just need to hear it'

And what struck me was...he looked like it really meant alot to him, that he did need to hear it. But he is a 'popular' man...everyone loves him...he can't walk into a room without people running to him...but he needed to hear those words.

So my challenge for yall is to call someone, go visit someone, go out of your way. Think of that person you don't see much, or the one you may only run into a time or two a year. And tell them how you feel about them. And don't assume because they have so many friends they don't need to hear it...they want to hear it just like we do. And I urge you to not drop a note or a letter unless you absolutely have to. Let them hear the love and care in your voice...and if at all possible...give them a great big hug...let them litterally be surrounded with arms that love them. We are a needy people...and really all most of us want is to know that we're important to someone...that someone cares about us, that we have made an impact on someones life.

And then if you feel so led...share here like I did, so we can encourage one another, inspire one another, and rejoice with one another Smile For the record...I love you ladies too!! I'd hug each one of you if I could...and someday will!


So now the Lord says, "Stop right where you are! Look for the old, godly way; and walk in it. Travel its path and you will find rest for your souls. ~Jer 6:16

Everyone can purchase their freedom by having the courage to forgo the perks of dependency.
 Topic: Auditory Processing Disorders?
Auditory Processing Disorders? [message #375041] Wed, 30 January 2008 15:10
Sparrow's Song
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Can some of you look at my post on the Special Needs Homeschooling board? I am concerned that my 12 yr old son may have an auditory processing disorder. Would any of you kind ladies give me your opinions on this?

Thanks!

[Updated on: Wed, 30 January 2008 15:10]


Blessings,
Sparrow's Song

Love divine has seen and counted
Every tear it caused to fall;
And the storm which Love appointed
Was its choicest gift of all...

 Topic: Don't miss the CHFWeb Cookbook info! (on Chats board)
Don't miss the CHFWeb Cookbook info! (on Chats board) [message #377591] Fri, 08 February 2008 13:45
Tamara Eaton
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http://chfweb.net/index.php?t=msg&th=41281&start=0&a mp;S=0578b91be28cd7cfbc92f1ca9033709a

Busy homeschooling moms are sharing their favorite recipes! More info is also available on the Chats board, so don't miss it if you're interested in contributing recipes or purchasing the recipe book when it's finished.


Blessings,
Tamara

"There is always enough time to do the will of God. Don't Waste Your Life!"
 Topic: Just wanted to say a thank you to you ladies!
Just wanted to say a thank you to you ladies! [message #383698] Sat, 01 March 2008 19:16
Eve  is currently offline Eve
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To William and Tamara for this post (I hope I got the right people, and to all you ladies out there who have been on here over the years:

I just wanted to voice a thank you in appreciation for your hard work for this web site to keep it running. It has been a blessing and an encouragement through the 8 or 9 years (I think it has been!)

You have been with me and answered my questions through many ups and downs in the life of a mother and homeschooler and wife... and for your prayers, especially!

Thank you for everything,
Eve
 Topic: The CHFWeb Cookbooks are here! Here is more info...
The CHFWeb Cookbooks are here! Here is more info... [message #403594] Wed, 30 April 2008 22:22
Tamara Eaton
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Hi Everyone,

The CHFWeb cookbooks have arrived now and Dawn is shipping them out! Click on this link for more info! :

http://chfweb.net/index.php?t=msg&th=41281&start=0&a mp;S=eee77febd2226e3b56d96973f2eccd64


Blessings,
Tamara

"There is always enough time to do the will of God. Don't Waste Your Life!"
 Topic: re: passport to purity
re: passport to purity [message #406353] Wed, 07 May 2008 23:28
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for those of you who have used it with your girls, did it go equally as well with your boys??

Dh did it this summer with our ds and a friend. They were young, but we felt that it was time.

I really think the boys hardly listened , and the dads, not really being teachers, just got thru it. They had an awesome weekend together tho!!! Stayed at a country B & B where the owners were really tickled about what the dads were doing and then they went rafting.

I think I am going to have him relisten to it all in spurts. then I'll be available to questions or he can go to his Dad.

What do you think? How did it go with your sons?
Dina


Dina ....... HE has made me glad!
 Topic: Today's Sermon
Today's Sermon [message #407687] Sun, 11 May 2008 23:14
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This morning the Scripture was based upon Psalm 5 -- and the topic was "Desperately Dependent" -- The (visiting) pastor asked if how the psalmist saw himself in this psalm looks like how I see myself?

Eighty percent of Americans say they believe in God; only about thirty percent actually attend worship services.

“Houston we have a problem!”

We may have gone throughout the world – but how are you & I living the Great Commission?

The pastor framed some questions, I paraphrase:

Do I see myself as needy for God’s help as a quadriplegic needs a care-giver? (Am I the spiritual equivalent of Joni Eareckson Tada?)

Do I see my nature as marred as a pristine beach after a major oil spill – for there is not a sand in my soul that is untouched by sin’s pervasiveness, is there?

Can I peer into the inky blackness of the waters of the North Seas, knowing that four of my children lie beneath its wave – And say , “It is well with my soul”? (Horatio Spafford)

Until I understand what it is to be desperately dependent – and live each day of my life – what work commends me to God, according to Psalm 5?




You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: Excellent radio program on raising children
Excellent radio program on raising children [message #410859] Wed, 21 May 2008 09:01
Kim L. from MO  is currently offline Kim L. from MO
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We were going to have a family meeting last night to discuss some behavioral issues with our children.

As God would have it, John MacArthur has been doing a series entitled, "The Fulfilled Family", and yesterday and today was specifically on children. So, we sat down as a family and listened. It is an excellent series for those who have time, and can handle one who gets to the heart of the matter.

http://www.oneplace.com/ministries/Grace_to_You/archives.asp ?bcd=2008-5-20


"....And if your Master’s truth offends the gentlemen to whom you speak of it let them be offended. His name we must confess; of His glory we will continually talk…" Charles Spurgeon
 Topic: The Power of a Women’s Words
The Power of a Women’s Words [message #444577] Sun, 24 August 2008 11:51
mom to 9  is currently offline mom to 9
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The Power of a Women’s Words by Sharon Jaynes

I was wondering if anyone has done this bible study? If so, what are your thoughts on it? I am trying to decide between this and a Beth Moore study - I need to decide by Wednesday.


Jen
Wife to DH 21 years
Mom to 9; 8 years old down to 1 year old
 Topic: Rose, any update on church/kids?
Rose, any update on church/kids? [message #459893] Mon, 06 October 2008 13:46
Karen in TN  is currently offline Karen in TN
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You had posted a while back about your home church problem with your kids being unsupervised with some of the other kids. Just wondering how it worked out for you.

Karen in TN


wife of 31 years to Richard, Mom to Matthew (26), Adra 24, Shelby 15, Samuel 13, and Ruby Grace 11. Homeschooling for 19 years.
 Topic: Getting in Shape with Shakespeare
Getting in Shape with Shakespeare [message #460673] Wed, 08 October 2008 11:53
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In the sixteenth century William Shakespeare observed, “Our bodies are our gardens - our wills are our gardeners.” How prescient and wise his commentary, though spoke by a villainous character:

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IAGO: . . . Our bodies are our gardens, to the which our wills are gardeners; so that if we will plant nettles or sow lettuce, set hyssop and weed up thyme, supply it with one gender of herbs or distract it with many, either to have it sterile with idleness, or manured with industry -- why, the power and corrigible authority of this lies in our wills . . . (William Shakespeare, Othello, I, iii)


A garden needs its soil tilled, fertilized and watered by a gardener who studies which are the best plants for the garden, given its exposure to sun and shade. We know no garden thrives if simply left to its own!

Why do we suppose our bodies need no disciplined care?

Take a look at yourself, in a reflecting mirror – and the mirror of God’s word. Take out your Bibles and write out what God’s word says, what it means and what it means to you!

Do you need to change anything about yourself? (Romans 7:18-25)

Can you make any changes? (Psalm 18:29)

If you ask for wisdom and courage, God will grant you the power! (2 Peter 1:2-8)

We have the power to change – yet correcting, improving or reforming our will may seem more daunting than taming an overgrown garden. However the steps we take to bring order in a neglected garden are how we set right our wills:

Believe there is as much a purpose for our bodies, and there is a garden. (Genesis 1:26-30; 100:3; Isaiah 64:8; John 14:23)

Know that there is Master Gardner, God, who delights to aid all who turn to Him for help. (Psalm 139:23-24, Jeremiah 33:1-3)

Use the right tools, in the right way, for right results. (Isaiah 1:18-20; Hosea 8:7, 10:13; Galatians 6:7-8; 1 Corinthians 10:13-14, 31)

Keep at it – until the end. ( Philippians 3:12-21; Hebrews 6:1-2; Luke 19:17)




You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: Veteran Homeschoolers-need littles advice
Veteran Homeschoolers-need littles advice [message #469026] Wed, 29 October 2008 13:31
Karen in TN  is currently offline Karen in TN
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Please go to homeschool section and read Laura in Va's post about chaos. I think this post is a blended homeschool/Titus 2 question and we would both be interested in your views/help.

Thanks,
Karen in TN


wife of 31 years to Richard, Mom to Matthew (26), Adra 24, Shelby 15, Samuel 13, and Ruby Grace 11. Homeschooling for 19 years.
 Topic: All Hallow’s Eve, 2008
All Hallow’s Eve, 2008 [message #469693] Fri, 31 October 2008 09:36
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A holiday with ancient roots, Halloween still provokes debate – whether one sees it as a positive religious observance – or one that is dangerous. Whichever side of the debate describes your point of view, it is a night long associated with “spirits,” that it, the dead – and worse – the night before a celebration of those saints who died in the Christian faith.

But what of the spirits of the saints who still trod this old earth? How is your spirit? Are you dispirited, having lost yet another battle with your flesh?

David lost a few battles with his flesh – and after a particularly fierce battle, what he prayed will revive your spirit – “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” (Psalm 51:10) Or, in plain English: “God, make a fresh start in me, shape a Genesis week from the chaos of my life.” (Psalm 51:10 from THE MESSAGE )

Whatever is dragging you to despondency, let go of the reins, and pray:
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“. . . Let thy personal weakness, O Christian, be an argument to make thee pray earnestly to thy God for help. Remember, David when he felt himself to be powerless, did not fold his arms or close his lips, but he hastened to the mercy-seat with ‘renew a right spirit within me.’ Let not the doctrine that you, unaided, can do nothing, make you sleep; but let it be a goad in your side to drive you with an awful earnestness to Israel's strong Helper.” (C.H. Spurgeon)


Let God take the reins, and remember you can do something for a minute or an hour – So,

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Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

Just for today, I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that
"most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." . . .

Just for today, I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don't want to--just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it . . .

Just for today, I will be unafraid . . . http://www.nhal-anon.org/Just4Today.html







You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: So, this is how it all played out :)
So, this is how it all played out :) [message #470089] Sat, 01 November 2008 13:14
Deana  is currently offline Deana
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OK, first of all thanks for all the posts re Mother's surgery the other day.

So, she had it on Thursday. I left work at lunch, went to the hospital, stayed all night Thursday, took off Friday, got her to her mother's (my 91 yo gm,LOL) yesterday, got groceries, oil changed and Katie to a church hayride at 6:30. Smile Rick took Katie to piano on Thursday afternooon then they came to the hosp.

She was able to have the laser type surgery, and plans to start driving today--we'll see about that, my gm wants her to stay a day or two more, but Mother seems to be doing well and not wanting to lie around much. Rick and Katie and I are going to MSU this afternoon for the game at 6, his gf is not going to get to go due to a hurt knee from cheer practice. Jake and I are going to Red Lobster tomorrow after church and to pick him up some things from the mall. The only thing we didn't do was the Walnut-Baldwyn game last night at Walnut (40 miles from here) but I was tired from sleeping or lack of it on the little pull out hospital bench. So Rick went to the Saltillo game to see his friends there play.

The only other thing was the gas people had another emergency and won't be able to install my new tank until Monday, but the temps are going to be warmer this weekend, like in the mid 70s, so that's really not a problem. I am meeting them on MOnday at 2.

As expected, brother left the minute she got back to the room but whatever. Confused He got her there and I got her home. My gm is in better shape than all of us and was tickled to have her stay at her house.

Anyway, just a quick update. Things really DO work out, even tho we panic sometimes. Smile

Remember to set your clocks BACK tonight! Smile


Deana
 Topic: Update on dd
Update on dd [message #503523] Thu, 05 February 2009 10:42
Margarete  is currently offline Margarete
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I didn't know where to put this so I chose here. Wink Dd has been diagnosed with PCOS. We had an appointment at the Children's Hospital yesterday. What was good was that we had a lot of tests done already. She needed just one more and they did it there. She has been put on the medicine that I asked about a few weeks ago. We go back in May. Thanks ladies for all your input.


Margarete (pronounced Margarayta)
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Mom to:
Eddie 24, Bobby 22, Jonathan 20,
Benjamin 17, Becca 15, Tom 11,
Katie 5, and Ana 3
 Topic: Bunny Trail from Telling Parents: What is needed?
Bunny Trail from Telling Parents: What is needed? [message #540164] Tue, 02 June 2009 19:45
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In a couple of different situations lately, it has become apparent that "all the kids" knew about certain situations, but the parents did not.

Sometimes, each kid has pieces of info that make them feel uncomfortable, but not enough to be a "smoking gun" or make them feel sure enough to go to the parents. Sometimes they go to the kid, but not the parents.

What's your family's standard for when a *child* in your family goes to another child...or another set of parents...?

[examples edited out by me]

Is your approach for your family grounded in some passage or application of Scripture?

Fill me in on how it works...

[Updated on: Sat, 06 June 2009 07:35]


In Jesus

Sherry from NH
 Topic: Hop!Hop! from witnessing thread:
Hop!Hop! from witnessing thread: [message #546241] Wed, 24 June 2009 16:59
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This was in my e-mail today from Peacemakers:
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Hard to Say You're Sorry?
Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation
and leaves no regret… 2 Corinthians 7:10

If you want someone to respond positively to a confession, make it a point to acknowledge and express sorrow for how you have hurt or afflicted them. Your goal is to show that you understand how the other person felt as a result of your words or actions. Here are a few examples of how this can be done:

"You must have been terribly embarrassed when I said those things in front of everyone. I'm very sorry I did that to you."

"I can see why you were frustrated when I didn't deliver the parts on time. I'm sorry I failed to keep my commitment to you."

Adapted from The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
by Ken Sande, Updated Edition (Grand Rapids, Baker Books, 2003) p. 130.

Food for Thought

How easily do you say, "I'm sorry"?

There was a pop song back in the 80's that got a lot of radio play; the title was Hard for Me to Say I'm Sorry. The lyrics accurately named the tension of "I really want to say it, but it's really hard for me to do it." Does that tension feel familiar? Yeah, me too.

My, how quickly we forget. We forget how incredibly powerful those two little words are -- "I'm sorry." They can defuse a tense situation in a heartbeat. When we honestly express sorrow for what we've done, we're taking the initiative to level things. Rather than looking down our nose at someone, we look him square in the eyes. And it is there, on that face-to-face level, where words like "confession" and "forgiveness" really mean something.

A life lived without regret is a tall order. But being able to say, "I'm sorry" -- as hard as it is -- is a step in the right direction. So move beyond just wanting to say you are sorry and actually do it.



You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

bwsmith
 Topic: Proverbs for Child Training is now in the Titus Two Library
icon14.gif  Proverbs for Child Training is now in the Titus Two Library [message #555721] Thu, 30 July 2009 11:56
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Kate and Kevin Megill's Proverbs for Child Training post is now in the Titus Two Library so everyone will be able to find it easily!

Thank you so much for sharing Kevin's organized list of Proverbs for Child Training with us, Kate!

Here's the link:

http://chfweb.net/index.php?t=msg&th=59272&start=0&a mp;a mp;a mp;S=a6af38bce76cd689b0bdd4c5d43fb35e

[Updated on: Thu, 30 July 2009 11:58]


Blessings,
Tamara

"There is always enough time to do the will of God. Don't Waste Your Life!"
 Topic: Update
Update [message #566653] Wed, 02 September 2009 15:13
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Well after listening to some of you wise ladies, I decided to pray that God will lead dh on what to do about the job situation. I told God I would patiently await dh's instructions.......not exactly what I said but you get the gist of it.

Well we sent in two resumes to places we wanted to live in. This was almost a month ago and before I was willing to wait for God to speak to dh. I also talked to a friend in a similar situation and she said that they finally realized that should not tell God where they wanted to be and provide a job there, but should just let God lead them where they wanted. We realized we were wrong in trying tell Him where we wanted.

So everything was pretty calm at dh's job and we never heard from the applications we sent out. Last night however dh came home upset and told me how he was feeling and that he had been praying about what to do. Dh said that he felt he needed to send out more resumes and not focus on the where but let God tell us where to go. I took that as a sign that God had been putting this on his heart. Dh instructed me to send out resumes to all the companies that hire for the type of job he does and we would wait and see what happens.

So today I have literally spent all day doing this. I don't know how many resumes I have sent back but for some reason I feel in my heart that this time our effors will not be fruitless.

anyway just wanted to update yall and see if anyone had any further insight. Very Happy
 Topic: My Life’s Reproofs:
My Life’s Reproofs: [message #575036] Thu, 01 October 2009 17:58
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Eyeglasses
Keys
Cell-phones

Without these things, I can’t read, go anywhere, or be in touch. Two decades ago all I needed was my keys – which I did misplace infrequently. I thought mobile phones were an affectation and I didn’t need glasses. What a difference an accrual of days, weeks, months and years makes.

Misplacing these items burns up many of those minutes – even hours; searching for them ignites emotions ranging from annoyance to one-shade short of insanity. Yet, my disturbing inability to maintain control over them is a gentle reproof from God. In my mismanagement of small things God reminds me what I can mange, by His grace: my emotions.

Tonight we are having new friends over for dinner – as usual, I put a few housekeeping chores off, counting on time that quickly slipped from my control when I had an unexpected decision to render on remodeling work. Then, I lost my cell phone somewhere between the work site and the food market.

Now what? I hurried back to the apartment to get dinner started. (Butter curry, btw)

Frustration reared – and words threatened to overflow my mind and mouth. I asked God to control me and my mouth. When I did, I noticed my husband had kindly spruced up the apartment, including doing the dishes. Depositing the groceries, starting the dinner, I decided to follow my daughter’s advice: breathe.

A friend, Tamara Eaton, observes, “There is time enough to do God’s will.” God’s will for me is to choose to be a wild woman or a gentle and contrite spirit, believing and acting like I trust Him, in all things especially when time is fleeting. So I had a little chat with myself.

OK, Barbara, consider this a little ride around a pleasant neighborhood; I poured a coffee to go, retraced my steps, after a 30 minute adventure, from work site to grocery store I found my missing phone at the food market.

Losing my phone so far from home is a first. Usually I loose it in the house, my purse, or the car. Ah, the adventure home continues.


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: update today
update today [message #575037] Thu, 01 October 2009 17:59
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I am having a much better day: THANK YOU PRAYER WARRIORS!! I feel incredible peace! We haven't even had a good day of schooling, but I feel I can cope with it. My dd was wonderful today and we had some break-throughs! Prayers of righteous men (women) availeth much! (hope I quoted it correctly!)

Hannah did so well, she even moved LEAPS and BOUNDS on one OCD controlling issue!! (She actually took a shower ALONE with SOAP on her whole body AND washed her hair ALONE without any help from me, since we came home from my brain situation MONTHS ago! This is BIG for us!!) She earned some rewards and even wants to spend part of her reward tickets on her brother. I am seeing a glimpse of my true little girl back. Today was a nice relief. It will help me with tomorrow and so on.
Keep praying!
Eve

[Updated on: Thu, 01 October 2009 18:00]

 Topic: Eve’s Problem – and Mine
Eve’s Problem – and Mine [message #575836] Mon, 05 October 2009 13:51
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When the woman saw that the tree was good for power, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate. (Genesis 3:6)

Eve was created to be in the very place I would enjoy: the delight of her husband, living in a glorious garden with no pests, and no laundry. Yet, when offered a taste of something God proscribed, that’s the very thing she went for – fruit from the tree of knowledge because it looked tasty – and would make her wise. In fairness to Eve, the serpent deceived her, challenging her to question what God said. (1 Timothy 2:14)

Where I live isn’t excellent in every way – as was the garden where Eve first lived. (Genesis 1:31) I live in the aftermath of their free choice. But, it’s way more pleasant than what Eve encountered when she and her husband were driven from the Garden. In fact, I enjoy many of its fruits; I am grateful for its bounty. But, too often I can be as complacent as Eve was, not stretching, as she might have, for the fruit from the tree of life.(Genesis 2:9)So, when I hear the question, “Did God say . . . ?” I can slide into doubt if God really said what He said. If He didn’t, then maybe I can be in charge and do what pleases me?

At the root of my doubt is disobedience – mine or someone else’s. I will not do what I should do, and I embrace what I should not. Or, I stumble into doubt because another Christian sinned. The thought, “God can’t be real if He let’s this go on,” flits by, and sometimes I invite it in for a chat, plunging myself into dark waters.

Though presented with a powerful deception, could not Eve have asked Adam about challenge, or, God? My question goes beyond what Scripture teaches – but it is a life line in the watery darkness of doubts. But, I must look away from the temptation and search for God. Longing to enjoy pleasure, and to be wise, I am so like Eve, unless I look beyond my sin, or the sin of someone else. And when all I can see is failure – it’s hard!

The tree of life was not hidden from Eve and Adam – nor, is it hidden from me because of the Scriptures.
Quote:


Wisdom . . . a tree of life to those who take hold of her,
And happy are all who hold her fast.
(Proverbs 3:18)


Christ is not hiding from me. He is as close as I permit; like Peter, though, I can’t always handle the closeness. . . . "Master, leave. I'm a sinner and can't handle this holiness. Leave me to myself." (Luke 5:8 THE MESSAGE ) And left to myself, I am hopeless!(Romans 7:24) Fortunately Christ never left Peter, nor forsook him, and so I have hope. (Romans 7:25- 8: 39)
Quote:


God, God, save me! I'm in over my head,
Quicksand under me, swamp water over me; I'm going down for the third time.
I'm hoarse from calling for help, Bleary-eyed from searching the sky for God.

(Psalm 69:1-3 from THE MESSAGE )

My hope:
[quoteI'm not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me.
(Phil 3:12 from THE MESSAGE )[/quote]

Now, let me get on with the laundry.
























You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: An interesting link:
An interesting link: [message #578848] Sun, 18 October 2009 11:05
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http://galvestondailynews.com/story.lasso?ewcd=eda645ab643e2 112


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: Thank you and a Book
Thank you and a Book [message #579930] Thu, 22 October 2009 09:01
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Thank you for all of your comments to help me with motivation. They were helpful and encouraging. A friend recommended a book to me. I wondered if you've heard of it. Redefining Beautiful by Jenna Lucado.

[Updated on: Thu, 22 October 2009 10:23]

 Topic: Christmas Lights: Keeping the Blues Away
Christmas Lights: Keeping the Blues Away [message #592018] Sat, 05 December 2009 00:05
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Christmas – Holiday – lights are rapidly going up. Many in Big D outdo themselves: whole trees are wrapped – sometimes thirty-five feet high and ten feet wide of twinkling, shimmering resplendence; whole lawns, porches, windows, and even rooftops blaze brilliantly! Nestled in among the extravaganza are a few tastefully lighted manger scenes – along with Disney, Santa, and Charley Brown. It’s easy to get confused, even if I know which Light is the real one. (John 8:12)

A thought expressed by a friend in Bible study has steadied me this week: “Christmas is understanding what God has done for me in Christ.” It takes me a long time to understand stuff – and the pace and frenzy of the holidays often work against comprehension – so I often miss a lot of truth that God puts plainly before me. Maybe that’s why the blues too often overshadow the greens and reds?

So, I took a moment last night and read in my Bible:
Quote:


How thankful I am to Christ Jesus our Lord for choosing me as one of his messengers, and giving me the strength to be faithful to him, even though I used to scoff at the name of Christ. I hunted down his people, harming them in every way I could. But God had mercy on me because I didn't know what I was doing, for I didn't know Christ at that time.

Oh, how kind our Lord was, for he showed me how to trust him and become full of the love of Christ Jesus.

How true it is, and how I long that everyone should know it, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners-and I was the greatest of them all.

But God had mercy on me so that Christ Jesus could use me as an example to show everyone how patient he is with even the worst sinners, so that others will realize that they, too, can have everlasting life.
(1 Timothy 1:12-16 TLB)


The festive lights sparkle in the dark, creating hope: hope for many for good times and good gifts; hope for some that death is defeated, and will never rob us of the gift that life is.Christmas is foolishness to many, and a stumbling block to more – but for me, Christmas is understanding what God has done for me in Christ. (1 Corinthians 1:21-25) So, thank you to all who take the time and spend the money to brighten many these dark winter nights – And thank You, God, for Christmas, so I might see how lovingly You cared for me. (Isaiah 60:1-2)


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: Life After Pruning
Life After Pruning [message #618712] Thu, 25 March 2010 13:38
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Where man sees but withered leaves,
God sees sweet flowers growing.
~Albert Laighton (19th century America lawyer & poet)




One lone iris (iris reticulata) waved shyly this morning from the corner of our yard. Its genteel purple and yellow flower cheered me, hopefully, portending no more snow?

Why only one? Last fall, I wanted the beds cleaned out – but it was hard to tell in September the difference between neglected plants mixed with dying vestiges of ornamental grasses – and the man who was just doing what I asked: clean out the beds, please, did yeoman’s service! So its solitary appearance reminded me that loveliness can survive even a thorough pruning and reappear at just the right time!

My life is like an overgrown flower bed – Many blooms past; the tangle of unfinished works, inept jobs and non-starters look like so much overgrown ornamental grasses! My comfort is that God is smarter gardener that I – and He knows what to prune and why. He wants me to keep growing stronger, even as my body rebels. And this is what that lonesome iris reminded me, and it is the hope over which the psalmist rejoices:
Quote:


“. . . They shall still bear fruit in old age; They shall be fresh and flourishing,
To declare that the LORD is upright; He is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in Him. (Psalm 92:14-15 NKJV)



As a transplant from the world into God’s garden, (Colossians 1:13-13) I will prosper, though old, like palm trees, grow tall like Lebanon cedars; . . . I’ll grow tall in the presence of God, lithe and green, virile still in old age . . . " even as age bends my bones. (Psalm 92:14-15 from THE MESSAGE )

In one translation of Psalm 92:14-15 I see a reason for my bulges! I “. . . shall still bring forth fruit in old age; they shall be fat and flourishing;
To shew that the LORD is upright: he is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in him.(Psalm 92:14-15 from the KJV)

So, creation shows me again the faithfulness of God who answers my cry: “Do not cast me off in the time of old age; Do not forsake me when my strength fails.” (Ps 71:19) That iris gives me an answer: “And even when I am old and gray, O God, do not forsake me, Until I declare Thy strength to this generation, Thy power to all who are to come.”(Ps 71:18)

May we all keep our eyes open to see His answers to our heart’s desires in His creation and His word.


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: BT: boys and games
BT: boys and games [message #623827] Sun, 18 April 2010 16:56
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in lieu of video games, our ds discovered 2 other competitive irl games. have any of you dealt with these?

One is called heroclix and is big time stratcgy driven with superheroes.

Something about it bugs me tho from a spiritual point of view, but ive not delved into the game and it may be fine. I do not like the sites where you buy the game peices. Some stores even have tournaments.

Another game is a card game called Redemtion and has been around Christian circles for years. We just travelled 2 hours ( Shocked bang head) to let him attend an organized game at a church.

All in all tho, i prefer this to electronic gaming.

would love any input on your parts!!

Dina

[Updated on: Sun, 18 April 2010 16:57]


Dina ....... HE has made me glad!
 Topic: BT boys and electronics
BT boys and electronics [message #623828] Sun, 18 April 2010 16:59
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I recently took the plunge and have internet browsing on my phone. thought id try it for a month... not sure if i want or need it.

briefly browsed thru there today.

Did you know that there is one *place* that i easily navigated to on my phone that is called * GUY STUFF*. hmmmm.

Id just say, be careful if your son is asking to look for games or ring tones when bored in the car etc!!

oh my.

dina


Dina ....... HE has made me glad!
 Topic: Food for thought
Food for thought [message #626358] Fri, 30 April 2010 07:11
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Crisis Intervention

If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened; but God has surely listened and heard my voice in prayer.
-- Psalm 66:18-19
I travel often and so I see lots of families with small kids in airport waiting areas. Such places, it seems, are most convenient for kids to throw a tantrum or two. Tired from their trip, the child soon finds an excuse for a crisis. The crowd rolls its eyes as the parents hasten to control the child. The effort seems futile, however. It's as if the child is trapped in a frenzied orbit of self-pity and can't come down.


I've thrown a few tantrums in my life -- tantrums where I've become self-absorbed and ignorant of God's presence in the midst of a crisis. I'm able to muster up my stubborn German-Swede pride with a dose of fleshly Joni and lock on to an emotional and spiritual frenzy equal to that of a two year-old. I hear or feel little of God at such times. But it is precisely at those times that I need to remember two principles: stop whining and dining.


Stop whining. God's voice can't be heard above my complaints. No matter that his voice shook the mountains. It's no match for a whining, negative spirit. I won't hear his comfort or his solution to my problem above the din of my self-pity.


Stop dining. Our solutions to crises sometimes come in the form of indulgences. I might indulge in food or fantasy. I'll work feverishly or play dangerously -- anything to stop the pain. But the pain will not stop and the crisis will not pass until I stop trying to consume everything I desire. God's hand will not be felt while I grasp at pleasure.


What are you whining and dining on? When you end it, that's when God intervenes in quietness and strength. The crisis will pass. All things will work together for good. He will have his way. See it for yourself today.


* * * * *


Still my voice, Lord, quench my hungers. I'm listening.


Blessings,

Joni and Friends
www.joniandfriends.org




You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: Don’t Wait to Remember
Don’t Wait to Remember [message #632883] Wed, 02 June 2010 11:03
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Walking past a large room in an assisted living facility, I saw an old woman yelling at the nursing aid to give her back her empty food cup; the yelling escalated into reaching and grabbing – and became an anguished tantrum. As I walked along a corridor and saw women and a few men, seated in wheel chairs, lining the nurses’ station – waiting – dread nagged at my mind.

If God grants me life, how could I live if this is the path He designs?

Christ said we would have tribulation in this world; growing older and watching others age, and others approaching the end of their days I see trouble comes in many more costumes then I imagined. (John 16:33)

Visiting with an uncle and aunt this weekend reconfirmed that brass in the golden years is the major problem my mother attested that it was. They both live in assisted living communities; though separated by 80 miles, their experiences have many similarities. Loneliness, decrepitness, and dependence punctuate the challenges of growing old, making old age no place for sissies. Old age demands humor, courage and grace; it needs others’ forbearance, even the kindnesses of strangers.

The Lord told Peter as much:
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“‘I tell you the truth, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.’ Jesus said this to indicate the kind of death by which Peter would glorify God.” (John 21:18-19)


We think Peter was crucified, upside down, perhaps during Nero’s brutal persecution of Christians in 67 A.D. But, the Lord’s prophecy resonates when we see how age and infirmity can rob us of strength and ability. Maybe I will need help in ways for which I can’t imagine asking; maybe I won’t even be able to ask!

How can I uncoil fear’s icy fingers from my heart? By doing today, what I might not be able to do tomorrow – Remember God now – “. . . before the years take their toll and . . . the winter years keep you close to the fire.” ( Ecclesiastes 12:1-7)

Remember God and walk – by faith that:
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He energizes those who get tired, gives fresh strength to dropouts.
For even young people tire and drop out,
young folk in their prime stumble and fall.
But those who wait upon GOD get fresh strength.
They spread their wings and soar like eagles,
They run and don't get tired, they walk and don't lag behind. (Isaiah 40:29-31)


This morning I sang with the Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir – maybe you will join in?

Through Every Pain Every Tear
There's A God Who's Been Faithful To Me

When My Strength Was All Gone
When My Heart Had No Song
Still In Love He's Proved Faithful To Me . . .

He's Been Faithful
Faithful To Me
Looking Back His Love
And Mercy I See
Though In My Heart I Have Questioned
Even Failed To Believe
Yet He's Been Faithful, Faithful To Me . . .


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdO2cRXVHII


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: They Sprouted!
They Sprouted! [message #637620] Mon, 28 June 2010 10:59
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The tiny than tinier seed whose name is a mouthful, Rudbeckia hirta, sprouted. Well, some of them did. I planted thirty-six starter plants, and at least six of them waved at me this morning when I went to water them. Well, they didn’t really wave. They are still too minuscule to have much personality. But the dots of fresh green amongst dark brown is as pleasing as a wave, and a testimony I did not drown them.

Watering teeny, tiny seeds in those diminutive composition flats is tricky. A spray bottle’s application is safer but slower; the watering can is faster – but if I don’t water carefully, I can flood the flats. I flooded a few compartments this past week. The spray bottle was empty, and the watering can was full; so, I used what was easiest on a hot evening – a recently filled watering can.

Sometimes – too often – that’s how I talk to people. Emotion or fatigue or something wells up in me, and I flood an unsuspecting soul with my words, because it is easier. Full of myself, I will answer loudly, in exasperation; or, I will mutter a caustic remark.

And I am really bad with customer service operators.

For someone who says she believes in the fruit of the spirit, when I am trying to settle a bill or other service problem an eavesdropper would be hard-pressed to hear kernels of kindness. Frustration can culminate in disrespect – and I speak as I would never wish to be addressed.

Harsh words to strangers (to anyone) can become stumbling blocks. Mahatma Gandhi once declared he was impressed with Christ, but not with Christians: “I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.” Apparently, a churchman in a South African church had barred Mr. Gandhi from entering the church, and used intemperate speech, and he remembered the insult. Why do I “forget” that my words to an unseen person may inflict life-changing harm?

Speaking to someone thousands of miles from me is a feat of communication that Paul or John could not have envisioned. Instead being filled with awe that God has provided me such a venue to be His ambassador, I have too often blown the occasion, flooding the flats of another person’s soul, when I could have taken the time, “refilled” with the Holy Spirit, and misted their hearts’ soil.

The comfort and blessing of God’s word are that my Advocate not only defends me before my accuser but He pleads my case, and paid my court costs before I understood their magnitude. (1 John 1:9-10) The mercy is He did not treat me as I deserved. (Psalm 103) And therefore, because of Him, I can treat others with forbearance, kindness and respect. So, making sure the spray bottle is filled, before I water those tender sprouts next time – I pray God reminds me the mission field may just be the next service call I must make!


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: Back in Texas
Back in Texas [message #653631] Tue, 21 September 2010 12:06
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Reason and faith are both banks of the same river.
~Doménico Cieri Estrada


One week ago today I was organizing myself to head to Maryland, and the week I spent there flashed by, even though the days were filled with several long hours of giggles and tears. This morning I am not organizing much except some pleasant memories. Yes, here I am — sipping coffee in absolute quiet — well except for the classical radio station’s soothing strains. No ear-piercing shrieks, squeals, squalls or loud crashes. Even my phone is silent. The loudest noise is me sniffling because the baby shared her cold.

In thanking God for what He provided this week past, He showed me – at the airport – a concrete reason we could enjoy our children and their children, a place to worship and hear the Gospel of Grace, and sleep in peace. The reason? Soldiers. They face head on what is always lurking around the corners of my life – death. Many young people – and not so young as well – dressed in fatigues – coming from or going to battles I could never fight; battles that mean I can live in peace.

This peace that God has enabled is not only for my pleasure – it is an opportunity. How well will I use it, knowing its cost to my fellow citizens and the Lord Jesus Christ?

While I can, let me learn, live and love because You, Lord loved me first. And You have given me a hope and a future.

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Come and listen, all you who fear God;
let me tell you what he has done for me.
I cried out to him with my mouth;
his praise was on my tongue.
If I had cherished sin in my heart,
the Lord would not have listened;
but God has surely listened
and heard my voice in prayer.
Praise be to God,
who has not rejected my prayer
or withheld his love from me!

(Psalm 66:16-20)

. . . My flesh and my heart may fail,
but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.
Those who are far from you will perish;
you destroy all who are unfaithful to you.
But as for me, it is good to be near God.
I have made the Sovereign LORD my refuge;
I will tell of all your deeds.
(Psalm 73:26-28)

. . . I will not die but live,
and will proclaim what the LORD has done.
The LORD has chastened me severely,
but he has not given me over to death.

(Psalm 118:17-18)

[Updated on: Tue, 21 September 2010 12:06]


You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

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 Topic: Thank you all re: S
Thank you all re: S [message #664228] Mon, 15 November 2010 23:02
Ariel in VA  is currently offline Ariel in VA
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Registered: March 2009
Location: Virginia
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The nursery director for Sunday mornings has talked to the parents (turns out the dad is on staff) about not having enough volunteers for there to always be one to do one on one with him (although once I switched rooms because of lack of kids in one room, I was able to be on bite control).

I've also talked to my wednesday morning boss about getting a 3rd person in our room just for him.
 Topic: Help me to be greatfull for the Lice
Help me to be greatfull for the Lice [message #668055] Fri, 03 December 2010 13:08
Penny_@35ThousandFeet  is currently offline Penny_@35ThousandFeet
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Registered: April 2005
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On one of my posts, someone reminded me of the Corrie Ten Boom story (after I told my CTB story) that Betsy was greatful for the Lice as it kept the prison guards away so they could do their bible study.

I find I am going into a pattern. I have a really good trip, a good four day away from the problems and cares of life except for that of passengers, but when I come home, I am tired (from working) and then have to deal with all the nonesense bills that I shouldn't have had to deal with. My lawyer does not listen to me. STBX is in contempt of court has had been for the past six months but no one seems to want to do anything about it. I told my lawyer if I have to pay for the braces, I want STBX off my health insurance. So I had court last week (pre trial ) and nothing happened except a date set for the final trial.

I got my fiscal paperwork from the lawyer for me to sign and it is all messed up. Wrong address, wrong figures and it has to be a do over. I get to a point where I say what is the point of doing the paper work because nothign is going to come of it anyway....even if STBX were commanded to pay DD's dental work, he still won't. He does what he wants and everyone including my lawyer lets him get away with it.

I come really close to saying 'nuts to the squirrels' just give me the final docs and I will sign them...STBX can have it all, he can not pay me nothing, he can have all the marital property, the value , he can just have it.....lock stock and barrel. Then I get scared and think am I doing the right thing by just giving up. That is what STBX wants me to do.

If I go through with the trial then I have to come in the day before, pay for a hotel, pay for my meals, and for what? Just the same balony (not even kosher) for what I have been going through in the first place. Even when I called my attorney and told h im the paper work is all messed up he still doesn't listen to me, return my phone calls, nothing.

I am legal aide. Small potatoes...not worth the fight.....if I were actually paying him maybe I would be worth something.

So on Fridays begins my melt down and then I really have to fight for a good mood by sundown when Shabbot starts. I pray over the candles and think 'Jesus is the LIght of the World in this darkness...' I pray over the wine and think, drinking this and confessing my sins ..he died on the cross for me. I wash my hands and pray the hand washing blessing and think, my sins have been washed away, and when I do the bread blessign I remind myself that my God will sustain me. And then I start feeling better...but it is always a pattern on Fridays with me and I get so discouraged I have to remind myself

Thank God for the Lice...there is a reason for this Lice in my life...help me to have the patience and the tolerance and the forbearance and the strength to deal with it all...
and the wisdom as to what to do when I am so confused. Pray for me that one.


Shabbot Shalom.
Penny
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