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Forum: TitusTwo
 Topic: Titus Two Women's Section Guidelines
Titus Two Women's Section Guidelines [message #2176] Sun, 24 April 2005 18:37
Tamara Eaton
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We welcome you to join us on the CHFWeb Titus Two Women’s section!

We provide this area so the older Christian women can offer encouragement and godly wisdom to the younger women in the spirit of Titus 2: 4-5.

Our goal is to keep the advice in line with God’s Word, weighing everything shared in light of what He says. While you don’t necessarily have to be above a certain age in order to respond to questions in this section, we do encourage you to prayerfully seek the Lord for wisdom in how you respond to others here and make sure it’s in line with scripture.

Topics of Intimacy and Personal Sensitive Issues
We encourage those who feel the need for advice about very personal and intimate topics to email one of the older Christian women participating on CHFWeb's Titus Two Women's section instead of posting details openly on the public board. Our goal is to keep CHFWeb "Family-Friendly" and we are unable to make sure responses to questions of a sensitive nature don't go into too much detail for the public board.

[Updated on: Sat, 25 April 2015 08:16]

 Topic: what are your favorite
what are your favorite [message #8812] Wed, 11 May 2005 15:12
Mel in Ga.  is currently offline Mel in Ga.
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books or sites on child rearing specifically concerning posative discipline? Thanks

Mel in Ga
wife to Lane, 23 yrs
Mama to Avery (18) and Krista (16)
 Topic: Where do moms go to quit.....revisited
Where do moms go to quit.....revisited [message #11743] Thu, 19 May 2005 17:25
Angela J  is currently offline Angela J
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Sad I actually said I quit to the dc today as a matter of fact and if I had someplace to go, I would have!!! I am soooo tired of correcting and correcting misbehavior and just when it seemed to have sunk into their heads, the misbehavior starts again.

For example, my dc ages 14,11,8,and 3(which she is really not the issue at this point) do not get along for very long at a time without arguments setting in and feelings hurt. When i go to correct, each one has their reasons for doing what they have done and don't see where THEY are wrong in the matter. How can I make them see where they are at fault and that it is never "right to do wrong" even though they feel justified. Btw, I do tell them this after listening to both sides of the story and trying to show discernment. I just want them to say, "okay, mom I see where I went wrong and will learn from this and work on this area," instead of "I didn't do anything" or "All I did was...."

Before it is all over said and done, the dc end up more in trouble for disrespecting me because they keep justifying themselves and I know that they are not getting it. HOw do you all feel in spanking a 14 year old? Being homeschooled, there is not alot to take away from this ds other than the xbox and computer. I know alot of you don't do tv. What are some things you do instead? How can we turn this family and set of siblings around showing love and respect for all persons. I can't tell when the last time was that the dc said"I love you"to one another. I makeit a point to tell them regularly.

Dh is sooo busy that I hate to have to call him all the time and he have discipline issues to deal with as soon as he gets home. He does discipline but is always wanting me to tell him what needs to be done. If I knew, I would take care of it myself Confused I am tired and frustrated and am completely ran down.

I am praying for wisdom to deal with the dc as well as wisdom for dh. I think we need some kind of boot camp. How can I manage without dh being home and around more often? He works a full time job, pastor's our church, and is a wonderful husband and father. He tries very hard to keep a balance but sometimes things still get out of kilter.

Any wisdom from you ladies will be greatly appreciated Smile


Angela J
 Topic: Kate, how was your retreat?
Kate, how was your retreat? [message #12378] Sat, 21 May 2005 15:57
Jen E.  is currently offline Jen E.
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Welcome home! Can you tell us about it?

 Topic: Quote of the Day
Quote of the Day [message #12441] Sat, 21 May 2005 20:08
Sherry in NH  is currently offline Sherry in NH
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Not sure where this should go, but figure whoever needs to move it will, if it needs to be somewhere else. I'm reading this really amazing book -- _Thinking in Pictures, and other reports from my life with autism_ by Temple Grandin, Vintage Books, Division of Random House, Inc. c 1995 ISBN 0 679 77289 8

First off, Temple Grandin grew up autistic and went on to earn a PhD and become an award winning designer and author. Her dedication page "I dedicate this book to my mother. Her love, dedication, and insight enabled me to succeed."

In Jesus

Sherry from NH
 Topic: Thinking in Pictures...
Thinking in Pictures... [message #12443] Sat, 21 May 2005 20:12
Sherry in NH  is currently offline Sherry in NH
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"Recent studies of patients with brain damage and of brain imaging indicate that visual and verbal thought may work via different brain systems. Recordings of blood flow in the brain indicate that when a person visualizes something such as walking through his neighborhood, blood flow increases dramatically in the visual cortex, in parts of the brain that are working hard. Studies of brain-damaged patients show that injury to the left posterior hemisphere can stop the generation of visual images from stored long-term memories, while language and verbal memory are not impaired. This indicates that visual imagery and verbal thought may depend on distinct neurological systems...

"In autism, it is possible that hte visual system has expanded ot make up for verbal and sequencing deficits. The nervous system has a remarkable ability to compensate when it is damaged. Another part can take over for a damaged part."

_Thinking in Pictures, and other reports from my life with autism_ by Temple Grandin, Vintage Books, Division of Random House, Inc. c 1995 ISBN 0 679 77289 8

In Jesus

Sherry from NH
 Topic: Has anyone read "Captivating : Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul "
Has anyone read "Captivating : Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul " [message #33752] Sun, 31 July 2005 16:47
chenoa  is currently offline chenoa
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My husband is just finishing Wild At Heart...fantastic book.Just curious if this particular one ministered to you and how..wondering if i should read it.
 Topic: Remind me not to ask 9yo to do important job when in a time crunch.
Remind me not to ask 9yo to do important job when in a time crunch. [message #36312] Fri, 12 August 2005 13:35
Linda Lee  is currently offline Linda Lee
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I sent him to the post office (just across the street) and he managed to crumple the bills and an important invitation in just one minute. He came back into the house, because he wanted me to keep his little brother from following him. I looked at the crumpled wad in his hand and lost it. I had asked for his help so that I could get some final preparations done before leaving for the weekend (We're off to visit my sis's family who staying at my mom's a couple hours away). Anyway, I feel so bad and need to pray. I'm sure you've all "been there, done that". Sad Times like this makes me remember our "H.O.T." group. I am thankful that he didn't let his little bro follow. God bless him for that!

Have a great weekend. "See" you all on Monday. Smile

[Updated on: Sun, 14 August 2005 15:57]

wife to dearest Tom for 25 years,
mom to Lydia (21), Samuel (18), Logan (13), and Silas (4)
 Topic: Leigh, I pm-ed you.
Leigh, I pm-ed you. [message #36607] Sat, 13 August 2005 22:50
Kate Megill  is currently offline Kate Megill
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No Message Body

In His Joy and Grace,


 Topic: There's a message over in Homeschooling section...
There's a message over in Homeschooling section... [message #38477] Mon, 22 August 2005 09:25
Sherry in NH  is currently offline Sherry in NH
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about what to say to a husband who talks about homeschoolers going buck wild when they go into the real world. She asks for input...

It's here.

[Updated on: Mon, 22 August 2005 09:26]

In Jesus

Sherry from NH
 Topic: I'm waiting for Deniseinpa's update from Sunday....:) nt
icon14.gif  I'm waiting for Deniseinpa's update from Sunday....:) nt [message #43417] Mon, 12 September 2005 09:39
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In Him--Tracy
 Topic: Rebecca's post about the godly couples in her church
Rebecca's post about the godly couples in her church [message #46576] Sat, 24 September 2005 11:29
Sue C  is currently offline Sue C
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My dh and I learned most about marriage by the wonderful examples of those Christians around us even though we both grew up as children of ministers. We were sadly lacking when we married. We were Christians that knew we loved each other, but rarely treated each other that way in our speech and actions. It was eye-opening to see Christian couples treat each other in a godly manner and to witness submissive wives. It was Titus 2 put into practice in a practical way in my life.


I would be interested in hearing what you saw in the couples at your church that helped you and your husband treat each other better. How could you tell a wife was submissive?
 Topic: Update on my dance thread below...PRAISE!
Update on my dance thread below...PRAISE! [message #57651] Thu, 27 October 2005 15:19
Diana P.  is currently offline Diana P.
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Hi Ladies,

I had posted earlier about praying whether or not to let my dd, who is 4, take dance lessons. Thank you all for your input!

Last night I went online to research dance studios in my state, and one came up that is a Christian dance academy!! Very Happy It's not yet open, but it listed an address and phone number, and, if it does open, it will be right on the main street close to my home and we can even walk there!!

I'm so thrilled...I'm going to call the number and see what they say. And, of course, when it opens, I will check it out carefully, even if it is a Christian company.

Just wanted to share....this could be an answer to prayer! Smile

Grace & Peace,

"Do your best, then rest"

 Topic: Prayer Power and deadlines
Prayer Power and deadlines [message #66328] Mon, 21 November 2005 11:11
Penny_@35ThousandFeet  is currently offline Penny_@35ThousandFeet
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I have been praying for my son as he is kind of been scatty lately and I also cornered him and said 'if you don't get these applications on their way by x date, you may be looking at Spring 2007. I said "I will help you fill whatever out, but you have to get started, I cannot do the 'penning' for you.' End of Subject."

Out of the blue on Sunday he said 'Mom, can we sit down and can you help me with this?' and he has been busy with it ever since. I still don't know how many boys are coming for his birthday but we haven't reached that deadline yet.

This has been a lesson for me. I am learning (myself) to put up and establish boundaries with people and those in my life. I never did that. I let people just come and go, and do and whatever...and that is one of the things I am discovering about my self in my late senior age is that boundaries really give you a peace of mind and elimate chaos in the universe. I suppose that is why I have had such trouble with my relatives is that I never established boundaries I just let them walk all over me. With DK's there was always the "Rules, Regulations and Bubblegum" (bubblegum referring to the trival things in life) but since they are older the boundaries are needed to be re established and organized. Mind you the household is not rampent but things like the problem with DS telling me what he wants and then idley letting it go by until it's too late.

 Topic: Back by popular demand.... Kate's "The Chart"
Back by popular demand.... Kate's "The Chart" [message #69481] Fri, 02 December 2005 09:53
Jen E.  is currently offline Jen E.
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Someone requested this:

You go through it first and mark what you think your husband's goals would be for you. Then he goes through it and mark what his priorities actually are. Then you talk about it together. It can be VERY eye opening!


Determine your husband's priorities for you.

Rank the following in order of importance:

___A clean house
___Well prepared meals
___Time spent with your children
___Time spent with others
___An attractive wife
Other: ________________________

Define what this means to your husband.

A Clean House:
-clutter picked up
-no hair in the tub
-no toys in the driveway
-no dishes in the sink
-spotless house
-living room/kitchen clean

Well prepared meals:
-flowers and china on the table
-dessert every night
-meat and potatoes every night
-never paper plates
-never hot dogs or quiche or ?
-hot dogs on paper plates
-order out for pizza

Time spent with children:
-home education
-quiet times together
-play time
-outings: library, park, etc
-memorizing Scripture

Time spent with others:
-social time
-time to share the gospel
-getting encouraged
-making disciples
-building friendships

An attractive wife:
-attractively dressed
-happy, rejoicing
-wears makeup
-strong character

Other ________________________

(c) 1988 Great Commission Inc. Used by permission.
 Topic: Looking for a person or three :-)
Looking for a person or three :-) [message #72383] Sun, 11 December 2005 08:50
Sherry in NH  is currently offline Sherry in NH
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If anyone has been through the whole dating/courtship cycle and/or is willing to brainstorm with me, please p-mail me...


[Updated on: Sun, 11 December 2005 15:02]

In Jesus

Sherry from NH
 Topic: Updating our situation
Updating our situation [message #73641] Thu, 15 December 2005 09:32
Deborah Bunk  is currently offline Deborah Bunk
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Location: Belize, Central America

Greetings one and all,
I haven't been here in a while because as we all know life happens. In August my Mom passed away, in October my Dad passed away. We have been home on furlough for 3 months and haven't accomplished what we planned at all. On top of that our oldest daughter is in a lot of trouble...I think it is called sowing and reaping...she is probably going to lose her licence for 6 months to a year...all because she can't seem to hold a job that pays enough to pay her bills and was caught driving w/o ins, an unregistered vehicle and a suspended licence. We are praying that this is the wake up call she heeds. She knows we can't/won't pay her fines for her. We will stand with her but she has to work this out herself...HARD for mom and dad to watch. The icing on the cake...My dh got an emergency email from Belize that his mom is in the hospital and had to fly out on Sunday. She seems to be ok and he will be home on Monday or Tues. We are praying that she has no more incidents until we get back to Belize in Feb. YIKES! But we know the Lord is near to the broken hearted... Really God is on the throne and we feel as though we are in a great big Grace bubble. He actually ministered to me powerfully during our church service on Sunday. What an awesome God we serve.

Hope you all have a blessed Christmas and may you prosper this year in everything you put your hand to in the Name of our Lord Jesus.

Wife to David, Mom to Cassandra(29), Jake(20), Noelle(15), and Gabrielle(11)

"And who knows, you may have been chosen for just such a time as this" Esther4:14 NCV
 Topic: Happy New Year, Everyone, let's get off to a great start! An invitation to all
icon7.gif  Happy New Year, Everyone, let's get off to a great start! An invitation to all [message #77531] Mon, 02 January 2006 08:24
Tamara Eaton
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Good Morning, All, and Happy January 2006!

I'm sharing the message here that I posted over in the "Doing Housework for the Glory of God" section --this marks the 5th year anniversary of posting "Doing Housework to the Glory of God" each week and I'd like to use this opportunity to encourage more of you to join us each week! We're all busy homeschooling moms who have to juggle all the responsibilities and it helps so much to share our goals and challenges with one another.

I love the beginning of a new year when we are reminded once again that we can have a fresh slate, a new start. January is a perfect time to take a close look at our goals and priorities and the way we are spending our time, and seek the Lord for HIS plans and priorities for our lives.

It's also a great time to get rid of the clutter and junk that is hindering us --and replace those things with attitudes and actions that bring glory to the Lord! An opportunity to cleanse both the inside and outside --confessing sins of wrong attitudes and actions and allowing the Lord to fill us afresh with His grace and wisdom in "numbering our days" so that we can apply our hearts to wisdom!

I like to prayerfully reflect on the previous year and be thankful for all the Lord has done, and take a serious look at the way my time was spent, and whether I need to make some changes. I know I spent much less time on the computer last year (and missed the opportunity to respond to many emails and posts!) but I don't regret the way I spent my time in doing more things with my family and homemaking. The Lord has different seasons for us and I am just so thankful to be a wife, mother, and grandma who is blessed with a precious family that needs me!

The Lord doesn't ever overwhelm us with all that needs to be done in our lives, instead He shows us areas and gives us the grace, power, and wisdom to make the needed changes as we abide in Him (Jn 14,15,16). So don't get overwhelmed when you think of all the changes that need to be made --whether it's housework, your attitude, children's training, homeschooling, whatever! Instead, allow yourself to be spiritually recharged first! Then everything else will fall into place.

1. Spend time with the Lord and in His Word. Praise Him for all He's doing in your life, ask Him to help you glorify Him in every area!

2. Make a list of the things you want to change, then take that list before the Lord and prayerfully determine priorities.

3. Have a family meeting, if needed, to discuss new goals and priorities.

4. Work toward these new goals and priorities with a joyful, expectant attitude. Stress and nagging may get a few things done faster for a short time, but it won't be worth it --especially to the other family members and it's harmful to your health! No one likes to live in a house with a nag, or a "martyr-mom" or "martyr-wife" with a "I'm just a slave around here" mentality! Let's do our work and ministry *joyfully*, filled with praises to the Lord, trusting that He will bless the fruit of our labor --and let it be as unto Him in all we do!

5. Notice the progress! Sure some things need to be done again and again, that's the very nature of housework and child-training, but see the positive each day. Observe the spiritual growth taking place! Let your home be a warm welcoming testimony to the love and grace of Jesus Christ to all who enter!

Praying that the Lord will bless us all with more of a hunger and thirst for Him and a desire to operate in His Ways this coming year --and that our families and homes will all reflect His love and glory more and more!

"So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom." --Psalm 90:12

Please join us over on the "Doing Housework to the Glory of God" section of CHFWeb and post your weekly goals, challenges, encouragement, and praises --we welcome you all and hope that more of you will be able to join us as we encourage one another in doing our housework, homeschooling, and EVERYTHING to the glory of God!


"There is always enough time to do the will of God. Don't Waste Your Life!"
 Topic: The difference between Love and Respect..
The difference between Love and Respect.. [message #92580] Fri, 17 February 2006 11:48
K in nc  is currently offline K in nc
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In a bible study I am in, we were studying about marriage, and of course our verses were the usual suspects. Eph 5, 21-33 and 1 Peter 3:1-7

Here were some of the questions:

What is the difference between love and respect?

How might love and respect be forms of submission?

Why do you think the husband was instructed to love and wife to respect?

Which do you think is the harder job? Explain your answer.

Interesting things to think about..I thought.


Wife to the most wonderful man in the world for 27 years! Mom to the three most wonderful kids in the world! (well most of the time)
 Topic: Could Juliemo update us on your daughter that you had ask to leave
Could Juliemo update us on your daughter that you had ask to leave [message #96906] Mon, 27 February 2006 22:26
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We are going through a similar situation with our 18 year old daughter with disobedience and discerning God's will for her life. I could have written your post last July and August with a few detail changes. You had asked your daughter to leave if she continued in relationship with man and she did end up leaving. Since we are considering the same with ours I wondered what happen to your daughter. I know every situation is different.

 Topic: Anyone familiar with the Bible study by Barbara Henry?
Anyone familiar with the Bible study by Barbara Henry? [message #99372] Mon, 06 March 2006 23:59
Staci in AZ  is currently offline Staci in AZ
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Should the facilitator of the Bible study Woman to Woman-Life Principles from Titus 2 by Barbara Henry be a younger woman or an older/mentor woman?


"The moment you began praying a command was given." Daniel 9:23

 Topic: Dear TitusTwo Ladies,
Dear TitusTwo Ladies, [message #104426] Tue, 21 March 2006 13:32
Tina  is currently offline Tina
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Hi Ladies,

Just wanted to say *thank you* for all the wisdom I find here. This is my favorite section of CHFWeb. I read it daily and am edified each time I read. I feel so rich. Even if I am not facing the same issue that a writer may present, when I read, it's like I am shopping in a spiritual armory, preparing for future situations, and everything's free!

Thanks! Very Happy
 Topic: First of all, would you do anything about this?
First of all, would you do anything about this? [message #123045] Tue, 23 May 2006 10:55
Sherry in NH  is currently offline Sherry in NH
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And second, please pray for all of them.

Kids went through a local Christian school. Unsaved dad. Mom was unsaved and had cancer. She was from another country. A Christian neighbor befriended her and led her to the Lord just before she died. The kids stayed in the Christian school until high school. Some turned out to make great adult decisions. One has a drug, reportedly heroin, habit. The Christian neighbor has stayed in touch with the family. The dad remarried, had a couple more kids, is now divorced from that wife, who is remarried.

One of our kids works for the dh of the Christian neighbor. The kid who has the drug habit is now a young adult, and in prison. He only has three names on his visitor list...a sister, his dad and this neighbor (his mom's friend). The neighbor is the only one who visits him at all often. She approached me the other day, because she knows that we know him from way back when.

He is in for at least another year. He claims to be a Christian. Before he ended up in prison, he had been active in a church that has a big outreach to street people and people with addictions. The pastor of that church left, this kid got back with his old friends, fell back into his old ways and ended up in prison. He is taking educational classes while in prison, but is not involved in any Christian prison ministry that the wife knows of.

<this is where we come in> He's been asking about a friend from Christian school days. Who we know. My perception of that friend is that he may be a bit wobbly (he has partier friends)...but he does love the Lord and tells other people about Him. The prison kid has been telling his mom's friend that this other Christian kid never did the things that this kid got into....and always was an encouragement to him.

Would you put the two together or no?

We could give any or all of these ideas back to the mom's friend: We could talk to that other kid's Christian dad? Some of the guys from our church go up to the jail, but not the prison, so we could try to enlist them? We could try to contact the chaplain at the jail (who is a homeschooling dad, but I don't know him personally)? There are probably people from Christian school who still care about this kid?

Do you have other ideas or cautions or thoughts?

In Jesus

Sherry from NH
 Topic: Bunny trail - DH's calendars
Bunny trail - DH's calendars [message #136024] Wed, 28 June 2006 07:31
Debbie_G(in MD)  is currently offline Debbie_G(in MD)
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As an offshoot from the thread below - I just wanted to mention something that has helped DH and I. Google offers a calendar. You can input all your activities and then "share" them with someone else. My DH and I have set it up so that I can see his work calendar! He can see the "boys" calendar & mine - and we also have a separate calendar for "doctors" - because I'm the one responsible for taking my dad to the Dr. All the calendars come up on the same page - with each "calendar" showing in a different color so it is easy to tell if something pertains to me - or to DH at work. Might help someone....

Although - you would still have to input it all - and get your dh to input it.


Wife to John (28 yrs), mom to Matthew (23) and Josh (20)
 Topic: Salt Bible Study Scripture
Salt Bible Study Scripture [message #146750] Wed, 02 August 2006 14:41
TammyCA  is currently offline TammyCA
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Once at a Bible study the leader did a Seasoning salt scripture devotion and I can't find it. I am out of touch with the leader and wandering if any of you know what it is.

She had us add the ingredients to a bowl and read a scripture then she filled bags for us to take home.

I am considering looking up a recipe and adding my own scripture but I would love to have the one I did.

My husband and I are assistant leaders to our small group and I would love to do this instead of an0 icebreaker question before the study.

 Topic: I can't find the post about youth group leader requirements...
I can't find the post about youth group leader requirements... [message #158518] Tue, 05 September 2006 23:15
Sherry in NH  is currently offline Sherry in NH
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it was pretty old from last year, and I don't know if you'll remember, but all of a sudden last year there were a list of requirements, in order to even be a small group leader in the heart-discipleship youth group of our church. I know it wasn't just me <grin>....because I had a couple friends and a relative who were all told the same thing.

This year, an entirely different mom-friend of four kids who works and is busier than I am is signed up to help (who wasn't interested or approached last year). Surprised, I asked her how she was going to fit in (for example) going to every sports game of the kids she'll be discipling. She laughed and said -- oh, there are no *requirements*...just suggestions of good things to do.

So, either 1) they've rethought the approach and changed the requirements since last year 2) she misunderstood or was told by someone who didn't clearly understand themselves 3) there are varying standards for various leaders? or 4) something that I can't think of right now <grin>

Would you follow up and ask the leaders whether anything has changed?

In Jesus

Sherry from NH
 Topic: THANK YOU! to everyone who has ever answered one of my many questions
THANK YOU! to everyone who has ever answered one of my many questions [message #181089] Sun, 05 November 2006 20:50
mom4  is currently offline mom4
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I wanted to let you all know how much you have helped me, how wonderful it is to be able to ask serious, personal questions without harsh judgement. Thank you for blessing me with your care.
 Topic: Do what's right in YOUR heart!
Do what's right in YOUR heart! [message #185696] Fri, 17 November 2006 15:02
Char in mid-south  is currently offline Char in mid-south
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Let me tell you............I don't believe getting more is the right thing. I think getting less and truly celebrating the REAL meaning of Christmas is the MOST important thing!!!

I believe a child that young should NOT be given a $250 gizmo that is easily broken, lost or stolen. Why the need for such expensive things? To fit in? What are we trying to fit in with? The world?

I'm with you! I want to celebrate the REAL reason for the season. I don't believe in spending more than you can afford. I don't believe that gifts should be the "main focus" of Christmas.


You are doing what is right for YOUR family!

Your Sista-Chick in Christ and Friend

 Topic: About friends...
About friends... [message #215765] Mon, 29 January 2007 09:58
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You know, it might sound sad, but I don't really have a friend to say "I love you" to. I wish I did. I have come such a long way to be able to actually say that without remorse in my heart. All my life I have always longed for a dear sister to be my friend. I have had relationships come and go. Some have been very close and yet, God has chosen for them to dwindle away. One particular relationship I lost hurt me terribly, but I came to a place where I was able to leave it in God's hands. I have walked through many struggles and heartaches regarding friendships. I believe it was because this one area was a huge idol for me. Now God has grown a heart that is more dependent on him, than personal relationship. Amazing!! And I have actually grown to reach out to others and encourage them and ask after them and try to care for them in what little way I can. Even women I don't know!! Shocked I used to be deathly afraid of women's meetings. I still get a little shy, but I go and sometimes I strike up a conversation with a lady I don't know or someone I do know and I don't hide and I don't fret if no one speaks to me. I am happy to glean what God has for me and I don't mind if that doesn't include extended conversations with my best buds. There are plenty of women in my life. Just not dear friends. And I tend to be a one or two friend faithful and true kind of gal.

I am thinking though of really finding some way of thanking some women who, while not people who I would call friends, have been genuinely interested in me in the past. They are more Titus Two women who have spoken into my life and just really have cared for me. There is the lady who weekly would confront me on how I was coping with dh's job loss. She was so gentle and yet persistent. I have thanked her verbally, but am wondering if I should send a note. There is another lady who visits her family here for a few months. She is elderly, but so very kind. We end up sitting near each other waiting for our famlies and end up chatting. She is so very friendly and so easy to talk to. And she has that lovely attitude that comes when you are old and see that a person's heart is the most important thing. Very Happy And there is the woman who is faithfully encouraging me to step out in spiritual things. And a few other ladies. All of them have deep friend relationships with others, but have taken moments out of their lives to reach out to me as well. We don't know each other well. We just are part of the same body of Christ.

Another thing that is cool is to see my relationship with my dd changing a little. I don't know what the future holds for us, but I am excited to see it.

I still hope that someday God will bless me with that dear friend that I have always longed for, but I am happy here and now. I just thought I would share this in case someone is where I was a few years ago!!

Married to my best friend and mommy to 6.

Daily given more Grace than I will ever deserve....

 Topic: I remember reading a post by Kate Megill a LONG time ago about disciplining kids. Does anybody
I remember reading a post by Kate Megill a LONG time ago about disciplining kids. Does anybody [message #249466] Fri, 30 March 2007 11:49
Momto3blessings  is currently offline Momto3blessings
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know where I could find that post? I hate to ask Kate to re-write it. I'm thinking it could help my friend.


 Topic: Thank you for your wisdom...
Thank you for your wisdom... [message #282327] Wed, 23 May 2007 22:20
dianabey3  is currently offline dianabey3
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Thank you to those who posted...Great Great ideas...All your suggestions have been floating through my brain somewhere, but with the fact that I'm sooo tired and sooo busy I couldn't pull them together to say my family.

I feel like I have some great direction now. It is something I feel can't wait any longer no matter how tired my husband and I might be.

Thank you again.

 Topic: Last Week (Prov. 31:28-31 memorization)
Last Week (Prov. 31:28-31 memorization) [message #299238] Sun, 01 July 2007 16:19
Denise Kelley  is currently offline Denise Kelley
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I am sorry that I missed putting this up last week. I needed an extra week to work on the last 6 verses. Some of them came easily, some did not! Smile

Here's our last 4:

Her children rise up and call her blessed;
grown children especially
Her husband also, and he praises her:
Praise from your husband should be desired more than all of the praise of others.

"Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all."

Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.

If I fear the LORD, I will bear fruit and do the works required of me.

I hope others have benefited from looking at these verses one at a time. We are leaving for vacation tomorrow and hopefully I'll know the whole passage by the time I get back next week. Smile


Wife to sweetheart - 25 years. Mom to Tom (20), Lee (23), and mil to Lee's lovely wife.
CHF member - a long time! :)

Denise Kelley
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 Topic: An Anniversary
An Anniversary [message #301795] Sun, 08 July 2007 09:57
bwsmith  is currently offline bwsmith
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Two hundred and sixty-six years ago, today, July 8, a preacher changed the course of the American church, and history, by observing in due time, the enemies of God will lose their footing. Accounts of the response vary – but agree that five hundred souls in Jonathan Edwards' church responded to God’s warning that they – we – are like spiders dangling over the fires of Hell, passing over it, as on rotten boards.

Women prayed for revival the night before. (_On This Day_, by Robert J. Morgan) What did you pray for last night?

O that we, who see daily war reports of fiery deaths, would understand the reality of God’s sure vengeance, and His mercy! And that we would pray for revival in our souls, and in His church! That we would be saved from our doldrums – and that the foot of our beloved unbelieving family, neighbors, and acquaintances – perhaps those even in the pews next to us – would not slip! Our help is not sleeping – He will not allow your foot to slip (Ps 121:3-4)


“ 'Vengeance is Mine, and retribution, In due time their foot will slip ; For the day of their calamity is near, And the impending things are hastening upon them.'
"For the LORD will vindicate His people, And will have compassion on His servants; When He sees that their strength is gone, And there is none remaining, bond or free. (Deut 32:35-36)

You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

 Topic: Looking for volunteer(s)
Looking for volunteer(s) [message #306596] Sun, 22 July 2007 09:46
Lisa L. in Pa.  is currently offline Lisa L. in Pa.
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Ladies, I am in need of some parenting advice (11 year old dd) that I don't want to post about on here. I would be so grateful if someone would be willing to help me with this through PMs. Thank you all so very much.

Wife to dh since '91

Mama to...
DD '96
DS '06
And three babies in Heaven

**Enjoying our 12th year of homeschooling!**

 Topic: Excellent Book
Excellent Book [message #308563] Mon, 06 August 2007 23:47
bwsmith  is currently offline bwsmith
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Same Kind of Different as Me: A Modern-Day Slave, an International Art Dealer, and the Unlikely Woman Who Bound Them Together
by Ron Hall (Author), Denver Moore (Author)

Story of amazing power of God to transform people -- esp. in tough times. Clear description of painful experiences, so not a book to place in hands of under 16, unless working through it with a parent.

You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

 Topic: How is your hearing?
How is your hearing? [message #311904] Fri, 17 August 2007 12:34
bwsmith  is currently offline bwsmith
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You Can’t Hear When you Won’t Listen!

The future rewards that Christ Jesus plans for the church – you and me – defy our imaginations! For those who overcame, we will have food from the tree of life, in the Paradise of God; protection from the second death; a new name; authority over the nations; the morning star; white garments and an inexpugnable name in the Book of Life, and an inheritance of sonship. (Rev. 2:7, 11, 17, 26-28; 3:5,12, 21; 21:7)

Those who overcome are those who will have mastered, who have subdued, gotten the better of, conquered what the Lord condemns: the loss of our first love, Christ; false teaching, suffering, persecution, idolatry, immorality, weakness, blindness, materialism. Each condemnation is associated with a specific church, but also personal. No Christian can read Christ’s revelation to John and not recognize our own failure to love Him best, first, and foremost, and inability to care for others as much as we care for ourselves.

So, we lament our helplessness – often excusing our failures. It’s just who I am – how I was made, some say, whose battle with sin does not relent. What we confess at night, roars back; what we give over in the morning, leers at us in the afternoon – and at midnight we count our failures, again. Money, anger, drugs and alcohol, cutting, food, pornography, doubt and unbelief seem easier companions than love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. ( Gal 5:22-23)

How can a promise enable us to keep the greatest commandment, and overcome worship disorders and wrecked relationships? Where does help come from? Christ told the churches it comes from hearing – from listening to what the Spirit says. (Revelation 2:7,11, 17, 29; 3:6, 13, 22; Romans 10:17)

What are you listening to, friends?

Usually I listen to myself – rehearsing, rehashing, resenting, resisting what is on my plate today. I don’t like the daily bread! So, I rehearse my doubts; I rehash a monologue of failures; I resent temptations, and resist the ways of escape, Then I moan that I am undone! I lament: What good is future hope when today’s I am ensnared by a web of my own making, woven with circumstances beyond my control! (Romans 7:24)

God says we overcome when we listen; when we listen, we hear – though sometimes His words are unbearable! He knows us, and our circumstances, from first to last, whether in our stubbornness, or pursuit of righteousness. (Isaiah 46:3-4,12; 51)

The Holy Spirit asks me why I invest so much in what will never satisfy – rehearsing, rehashing , resenting, resisting. “ Why do you spend your money on junk food, your hard-earned cash on cotton candy? Listen to me, listen well: Eat only the best, fill yourself with only the finest. Pay attention, come close now, listen carefully to my life-giving, life-nourishing words. I'm making a lasting covenant commitment with you, the same that I made with David: sure, solid, enduring love. (Isaiah 55:2-3 from THE MESSAGE )

And that lasting covenant is mercy – free, unmerited, and unending! (Psalm 52:8)

When your heart hurts because of what others have done to you, remember His mercy. (Lamentations three, esp. 22) When your heart is hurting because of what you can’t rise above, remember His mercy which identifies with you, saved and redeemed you, and lifts you up and carries you. (Isaiah 63:9)

We have a hope and a future, right now. May our hearts hear what our ears miss! (Jeremiah 29:11)

You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

 Topic: How is My Worship
How is My Worship [message #316149] Tue, 28 August 2007 12:20
bwsmith  is currently offline bwsmith
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Worship – in English means the worthiness of the one to whom homage is paid – It is first of all a verb, and then a noun. Worship is 24/7 – waking or sleeping, HE needs be my vision

It is what we do with our lives, and it is where we go once (or more) a week. Romans 12:1says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God-- this is your spiritual act of worship.”

Worship arises in my spirit – which GOD brought to life from death; Spiritual worship [too often] clashes with the worship my flesh contents itself with. What appeals to my senses may not express what my new heart knows.

Worship is me before God, showing HIM the love that grows because of His indwelling spirit. Therefore, when I neglect His word, my worship is puny – like an athlete who shows up for the game having eaten only junk food – and taken no water. Then my flesh scores a point, or two, and I stumble . . . But my “Audience” is also my “Coach.” He rights my worship, drawing me deeper, making me willing to look beyond my senses.

John 4:23 says: Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. He shows me the music, the preaching, the fellowship once a week are but 1/168 of my life before Him. It’s “easy” to be faithful, once a week – although my flesh often wars with my heart just as voraciously on Sunday. Remaining devoted to Him outside Sunday is a different matter. Therefore, remembering my GOD is a jealous God informs my worship. (Exodus 34:14-15)

Therefore, when I get caught up in the externals – I risk dividing my heart into the compartments of worship that Paul warns against: “. . . we who worship by the Spirit of God, who glory in Christ Jesus, and who put no confidence in the flesh –” (Phil 3:3)

I confess I get caught up in the externals of worship so often! And the externals can clog up hearts – so my prayer remains that I keep seeking God with a heart that longs to find Him, approving the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart.

You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

 Topic: Thank you ladies
icon14.gif  Thank you ladies [message #316581] Wed, 29 August 2007 11:14
KarenB  is currently offline KarenB
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When you hear of being sisters in Christ it is often just a cliche.

But my last post proved that you are sisters in the truest sense.

You gave me a hug, and then whopped me upside the head and told me (in a loving way of course) to stop being such a goof. Smile

Thank you for the Scripture. Nothing like the Word when your soul needs some comfort food.

I serve a Risen Savior.

 Topic: Feeling the Love We Hear.
Feeling the Love We Hear. [message #319047] Tue, 04 September 2007 21:40
bwsmith  is currently offline bwsmith
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The leper had petitioned publically – "Lord, if thou wilt, thou canst make me clean." (Mark 1:41; Matt 8:2-4; Luke 5:12-14) And Christ healed that man so perfectly through His word and His touch, he could show himself to a priest, restored. (Mark 1:44) The Lord said simply "I will; be thou clean." (Mark 1:41)

Can you imagine crying out to the Lord in from of a crowd – and experiencing His word and His touch? We don’t do that so much in the church – falling down before the Lord, publically crying for healing – and then showing ourselves to priests?

Probably we don’t because we fear the rejection that comes when we describe our “disease.” Drunkenness, sexually dysfunctional proclivities, emotional disorders, unbelief – these are not ways in which we wish to be known – especially around church folks. We don’t want to be labeled, “untouchable.”

If I told you what my sins are – the ones from which He redeemed and daily delivers me, what would you do? If you told me yours, how would my words help; how would my touch restore?

Do you think Christ wants you and I cleansed? C. H. Spurgeon had quite an answer:

“. . . Redemption like Creation has its word of might. Jesus speaks and it is done. The sinner is in a plight more miserable than the leper; let him imitate his example and go to Jesus, ‘beseeching Him and kneeling down to Him.’ Let him exercise what little faith he has, even though it should go no further than ‘Lord, if thou wilt, thou canst make me clean’; and there need be no doubt as to the result of the application. Jesus heals all who come, and casts out none . . . ”

Not only did He say the leper was clean, Jesus touched the leper – He put Himself in the path of Levitical defilement. I have been told, and I believe I am cleansed; I wish, though, I might feel His touch – a reassuring pat, a restraining arm – a loving embrace, from the hand that Spurgeon described as that

“. . . hand which multiplied the loaves, which saved sinking Peter, which upholds afflicted saints, which crowns believers, that same hand will touch every seeking sinner, and in a moment make him clean. The love of Jesus is the source of salvation. He loves, He looks, He touches us, WE LIVE.”


“Live creatively, friends. If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day's out. Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ's law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived. Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don't be impressed with yourself. Don't compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. (Gal 6:1-5 from THE MESSAGE)

You can't run away from trouble. There ain't no place that far. ~Uncle Remus

 Topic: Challenge time
Challenge time [message #359531] Wed, 12 December 2007 10:28
Laura in VA  is currently offline Laura in VA
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I posted this in our DHGG thread for today...but wanted to be sure everyone saw it.

I've gone to this revival at a church nearby the last three nights...and God has done amazing things. But one of the blessings was I got to see a dear man...someone whom I just think the world of, for the first time in a long time. We used to go to church together...he left a couple years ago, never said why, and I didn't ask...didn't matter...I know he left because he had to, God was leading him. Anyway...besides my Dh and my Daddy, this is the greatest man I know...he has just been the greatest example of what a christian should 'look like'. He has a joy that lights up his eyes, he cares about people with a real love. I could go on and on. Anyway...one of the greatest treats was to get to see him these last three nights. And I was thinking yesterday...I don't know if I'll get to see him again this side of glory. It's usually a year or so inbetween when I see him. He's older...never been married. So it occured to me yesterday...I need to tell him...I need to let him know that even though I only see him once in a blue moon...I love him and think of him and pray for him.

So last night...in the midst of catching up with a group of old church memebers I haven't seen in awhile, he came up. And I told him just that. Well actually I told him I had a thought...which lead to the 'did it hurt? I had one about 30 years ago...still haven't recovered lol" And I said "you know...I don't know if I'll see you again this side of glory or not" to which he replied "that's true..that goes for all of us though" And I said "but I just wanted to be sure you knew I love you...I just think you're the best" And he hugged me and thanked me...and said 'I really needed that...sometimes you just need to hear it'

And what struck me was...he looked like it really meant alot to him, that he did need to hear it. But he is a 'popular' man...everyone loves him...he can't walk into a room without people running to him...but he needed to hear those words.

So my challenge for yall is to call someone, go visit someone, go out of your way. Think of that person you don't see much, or the one you may only run into a time or two a year. And tell them how you feel about them. And don't assume because they have so many friends they don't need to hear it...they want to hear it just like we do. And I urge you to not drop a note or a letter unless you absolutely have to. Let them hear the love and care in your voice...and if at all possible...give them a great big hug...let them litterally be surrounded with arms that love them. We are a needy people...and really all most of us want is to know that we're important to someone...that someone cares about us, that we have made an impact on someones life.

And then if you feel so led...share here like I did, so we can encourage one another, inspire one another, and rejoice with one another Smile For the record...I love you ladies too!! I'd hug each one of you if I could...and someday will!

So now the Lord says, "Stop right where you are! Look for the old, godly way; and walk in it. Travel its path and you will find rest for your souls. ~Jer 6:16

Everyone can purchase their freedom by having the courage to forgo the perks of dependency.
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