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Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815638] Sun, 24 January 2016 11:50 Go to next message
K in nc  is currently offline K in nc
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Ok, I am sure this could get hot, and I am still thinking through .. but I recently saw a post from an online friend who had one of those "things to teach your children" .. the first two were about respect during the national anthem, and when speaking to your elders .. the third was "Dress you best for church... and get rid of your chewing gum".

I was raised to "give your best to God on Sunday morning by dressing up". At some point I am sure I thought, but we are supposed to give him our best all the time, so why don't we dress up all the time? I don't think I ever asked my parents that question though.

As society has become more casual I am quite comfortable not "dressing up" for church anymore. In fact, many Sunday's I prefer to be more casual, where other sundays I feel like dressing up. Our Pastor does the same, some Sundays he wears a suit (rare), some times nice jeans and a t-shirt (occasionally), but mostly dress pants and a button down or dress shirt, no jacket, sometimes a tie, sometimes not.

I remember when one of my boys was young and I was trying to get him to dress up for Sunday morning. He finally looked at me and said "You always tell us that it is what is in the inside that matters to God, not the outside. Then why does it matter if I dress up or not?" ... He finally understood that in some cases, it was out of respect for whoever we would be seeing, like the grandparents or whatever. But I found his point valid.

So, thoughts? Dress your best? or Come as you are? or Something in between?


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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815639 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 24 January 2016 12:14 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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For me, I like the ritual of getting ready. I like thinking about what will happen at church. I like looking forward to it. I'm not high maintenance, but I like grooming and dressing. I don't have really fancy clothes to begin with, but I wear a uniform the rest of the week. I like doing more when I'm going to church. Our church is rather affluent, so almost nobody just rolls out of bed and just puts on something to come to church. It might be a casual outfit, but it will be an outfit with accessories, not just the shorts and tshirt they wore to cut the grass yesterday.

However casually I might be dressed, I don't want to have a casual attitude toward God.


Leigh
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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815640 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 24 January 2016 12:15 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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We are casual here.

When I visit my parents, I always dressed nicer than home. I dress up a little. I am super uncomfortable in dressy shoes so I don't often wear dresses.

I always told my kids no t-shirts or holey pants. Always there or them not to run. When they're older, they do whatever, but sometimes I'll ask them to change. Maybe that's why my younger boys go in early. Lol

I'm fine with either one and understand both approaches. No big deal to me either way.


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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815641 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 24 January 2016 12:15 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I think "dress consciencously" is appropriate. Meaning, just thinking about what you are wearing....is it clean? appropriate for the service? modest?

Wednesday night usually has a different tone, contemporary service is different than traditional service, etc. I don't think you can go wrong as long as you take a moment and review what you are wearing.

If I have been wearing keds all day with my skirt and blouse, I'll likely change to sandals for church. I don't think it really matters, but just taking a moment to prepare yourself to enter worship and a spot check are always good.


In Him--Tracy
Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815643 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 24 January 2016 13:34 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I have mixed feelings.

I pretty much always wear a dress/skirt to church. I grew up that way, and as I tell my kids, I just prefer it. It isn't legalistic or anything...it's just what I do. (I wore jeans last Sunday morning for the first time I can remember, because I had nursery, and I thought my girls would fall over in a faint!! Wink)

Brad very often wears jeans to church because in his time in the ministry he's run into a number of folks who do not have "nice" clothes or "church clothes," and have stayed away from church for fear of not fitting in or of offending folks who are there and all dressed up. So, he dresses down on purpose so that folks who don't dress up will feel comfortable.

We've been in different churches with different levels of dress. Our current church is in a rural area, and we have the gamut of little old ladies dressed to the 9's in fine dresses and jewelry, to farmer type women in jeans and sweatshirts.

I require my girls to wear dresses until they reach their teens, partly because it's how I was raised, partly because even though we are in the presence of God all the time, I feel that going purposely for corporate worship merits a little more effort in dress than what we wear when we mow the lawn or clean the toilet in God's presence. There's a purpose distinction there in my mind.

Most of my girls have chosen to wear nicer pants as they get older, and I allow it because it's not my goal to require them to stick legalistically to a requirement that, IMHO, isn't biblically based.

I often think of "dress your best" in terms of the end of Exodus when they're building the temple and God spends a great deal of time detailing all the fabric and jewels and "unnecessary" beauty of preparing His temple. He spared no expense for His place of worship. I thought of that when considering why we spend money on a nice church when we could slap up a cheap concrete block building for worship, and use the money for missions.

But then...the Holy Spirit lives in our hearts now, and not in a physical space (tangent: don't get me started on telling kids not to run "in God's house!").

So, all this to say...I really think much of how we dress for church is a matter of personal preference, and should be a matter of the heart rather than of a system of "rules." I think there's a place for dressing up, and a place for not having such a requirement.

(That was a really long way to say, "It depends!")


Blessings,
Lisa R.
Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815644 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 24 January 2016 13:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Most of the time I feel if I match and it's not stained I'm doing good. Dress clothes make me very uncomfortable and I do not pay attention when I'm wearing them. All I think about is getting them off of me. I have sensory issues. So Casual all they way with me.

~Rosemary


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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815646 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 24 January 2016 15:24 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Ok, this ties in a lot with something I've been mulling over in my mind for a long time, something I'm not settled with myself, and where there is a vast difference of opinion.

First, I dress for the culture around me. That may or may not be appropriate, but let me explain. We are in a very casual town. Tucson is still in many ways the "old west". About the only people you see in suits, ties, very dressy clothing on women is in court. Not even at funerals and weddings. Do I agree? No, not necessarily, but it is what it is. Amanda and I even had a discussion about this the other day. She went to the theater with a friend, and dressed up for it. She explained that she dresses nice for the theater because #1 she knows how hard it is to perform and #2 it's a once in a great while experience, and she feels she needs to dress appropriately. Sound, logical reasoning. I asked her about church then. Her response is that church is weekly, and she dresses like she would any other day. God wants us to come as we are, that includes dress. I can't argue with that.

I dress moderately business casual all the time. Nice slacks, dressier top, nice shoes. Even when I'm wearing jeans anymore I pair them with a nicer top and decent shoes. No more sneakers and ratty t-shirts. I suspect part of that is due to the fact that I care more about my appearance now than I used to, when no one would see me, and I didn't care what they thought of how I dressed in those days. (Bad attitude, I know! But true. I DON'T want my picture to show up on the website devoted to "people of *company which shall not be named* who don't seem to own a mirror!)

Anyhow, my question that stems from this, and perhaps it should be a separate topic. Who is church for? Why do we even go? Why do we make a "production" out of it? Matt and I were having a discussion about clothing and visitors. What if, for example, his friend who sports a purple (or green - no matter) mohawk and is NOT a believer would come in and be greeted by someone dressed to the "nines" in their best suit, tie, dress shoes or a woman exquisitely groomed in her best "Sunday dress". Often, sadly an attitude goes along with that type of clothing. The attitude that "I'm so much better than you are." The very attitude that James condemns in his epistle. Yet it happens. In fact, it happened to Matt. He came straight from work, wearing shorts (we do live in TUCSON!) and was told by someone, not someone in leadership, not one of the pastors, simply a church member that he was dressed inappropriately for church. Uh.... If Matt would have been a guest, or if a guest would have overheard that, what would they have thought???

So, who is church for? Unbelievers? Or the Saints? Visitors or members only? Which group do we make it comfortable for? I have no answers myself. It's an area I'm really struggling with, and has implications across the board - from dress to music to preaching style to programs or lack thereof.


Teri in AZ

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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815647 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 24 January 2016 16:19 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Cultural norms have changed a lot since I was a girl. When I was growing up a girl or woman would not consider going to church unless she was wearing a dress,, (stockings and heels for an adult; ankle socks and patent leather shoes for a girl), a hat, and white gloves. However, my mother wore a skirt, stockings and heels to the grocery store, and added a hat and gloves if she was meeting a friend for lunch. We dressed up to go shopping at a department store and we dressed up to travel on a plane.

By today's norms, I think the equivalent level of dress is nice business casual. For me that means dress slacks (it's cold in New England! Wink ) and a nice top. Hats don't seem to be the norm in church except in mid-winter (because it's cold in New England! Wink ); same with gloves.

By dressing more nicely, we are making a statement to God and to ourselves and others that God as we encounter Him in corporate worship deserves our respect. We make it clear that this is a formal occasion, and our dress reflects that. It's similar to dressing nicely when I go to work even though I could do the same work at home online in my PJs. Of course I can worship God in whatever state I happen to be at any moment in my life, but coming together in church is an occasion of substance and dignity.

I heard a story that put it into perspective for me once. A certain priest enjoyed smoking cigars. He asked his confessor if it was permissible to smoke his cigar while praying the daily office. The confessor said, "Of course not! During that time you should give God your full attention."

"Well then," asked the young priest, "is it permissible to pray later in the day while I am enjoying my cigar?" "Of course, my son! It is always permissible to pray!"

I think our dress should never become a stumbling block for others, so today, even if I were inclined to wear heels and stockings and a dress and gloves and hat to church ( Confused Unlikely) I would not go to that extent because of others who might be "put off" by it, since it is no longer our cultural norm. But neither will I go in dirty tattered jeans and a tired old T shirt, out of respect for the occasion of corporate worship.

[Updated on: Sun, 24 January 2016 16:20]


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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815651 is a reply to message #815646 ] Mon, 25 January 2016 06:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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First, I dress for the culture around me.


I like this.

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was told by someone, not someone in leadership, not one of the pastors, simply a church member that he was dressed inappropriately for church.


Never appropriate, no matter what one's views on dress might be. Totally misses the point.


Blessings,
Lisa R.
Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815654 is a reply to message #815638 ] Mon, 25 January 2016 10:44 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I could have written Lisa R's post almost word for word. Except, I wear dress pants instead of a skirt simply because it is very hard for me to find skirts that fit me well and look modest. (I have very long legs that require a full-length skirt in order to not be a mini and almost all of them are way too tight on my large bum.) Plus, I'm self conscious about my horrible veins.

Our church runs the gauntlet. Even within whatever pew my family sits in, there is a lot of variety. My mom wears a dress and minimal makeup, my sister wears jeans and no makeup, and I wear dress pants and full makeup.

On Wednesday nights we have people come straight from work and we have men in paint-splattered t-shirts and work boots. So, I just wear whatever I wore for co-op that day - generally jeans and a nice shirt.


Stacy, mom to 12-year-old boy/girl twins and a three-year-old boy.

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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815658 is a reply to message #815643 ] Mon, 25 January 2016 19:25 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Lisa R. wrote on Sun, 24 January 2016 13:34


So, all this to say...I really think much of how we dress for church is a matter of personal preference, and should be a matter of the heart rather than of a system of "rules." I think there's a place for dressing up, and a place for not having such a requirement.

(That was a really long way to say, "It depends!")


This right here....we are an inner city church, and therefore, we want ALL visitors to feel welcome; the neighborhood is very poor, generally speaking. That said, our folks run the gamut from jeans to dresses, and everything in between.

We're pretty fine with casual OR dressy...and no one seems to take advantage of it, either.

Dh and I are on the pastoral team, so If I'm teaching or sharing, I will usually dress a little more business-casual, and if I'm not, I'm quite comfortable with casual dress. Another couple on our team always dresses up, so really, we're all over the place. Wink


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Diana

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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815699 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sat, 30 January 2016 12:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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You know, it would be a lot less complicated if everyone could just not worry about what everybody else is doing so much, or about how they appear to others.

With that said -

I grew up in the culture of "wearing your very best" to honor God. That sort of thing can devolve spiritually....or perhaps spiral into a fashion show or contest rather easily. I like dressing up sometimes, but when I was part of a church I felt out of place when I did...but I should not have worried about it so much.


The worst thing is for a person to come into a place of worship and feel they are not good enough to be there. Especially if people look at them that way. God loves everyone just as they are, right this minute. It is not conditional.

The next worst, in my opinion is for people WHO ARE MEMBERS to show up at church with the state of their appearance demonstrating a lack or respect toward the people around them...and perhaps to God. I am talking about not bathing, not being groomed....I have not seen anyone come to church in their pajamas, but I don't think it would shock me. I have seen pajamas just about everywhere else....another thread for another day.



[Updated on: Sat, 30 January 2016 12:06]


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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815707 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 31 January 2016 14:52 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I grew up with dressing up for church. It was the only reason, as a young girl, I had dresses, hose and dress shoes. My kids, until they were mid-teens, were raised the same way. When we switched to our last church, dress was much more casual, and I have to say that I really, really liked it. Some in the congregation may have taken it a bit further than necessary, but we also had a lot of poor farm workers that their best was probably our casual. (Now all I have is casual and worn clothes - and will not be buying more in the near future...so even for the old church, I would be considered just showing up in my attire.) With it's no dress code beyond an unspoken agreement to modesty, it made going to church much easier for me, personally. But, I have to admit that a lowered dress code did have an affect (either in what one began with or what one might sustain). Visiting other churches that were more casual, I found also they were too casual in other areas that for me were more important. Not saying that one thing causes the other, but it was pretty across the board. Yet, and I can't justify it, I do think that taking care and dressing a bit better is something I wish still could participate in.

Right now, one of the reasons we are not in a church is because of my wardrobe. Jonah has nice stuff. Because Franklin wears a uniform and rarely fluxes in weight, he still has dressy to dress-casual. I don't have anything - and hated shopping for dressy things because of my size (even my shoe size is hard to buy in styles that are appropriate/comfy). I've gained 50 pounds in the last year and scraped up enough to buy jeans and a couple of shirts that I rotate heavily. Until I can get back down, I won't be shopping or going to a church.


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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815710 is a reply to message #815638 ] Sun, 31 January 2016 18:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I want to spend a little more time on this. Our church, as I said, is rather affluent, and people can be very pricey on Sunday mornings. This morning I wore half of my work uniform because I had to go in at 12:30, and I was not the least bit ashamed or guilty for it.

Our church is liturgical, so we really do come as we are, no matter how we are dressed. People in the fur and diamonds come forward to receive the Lord's Supper the same as I do. When the governor visits, he and his family come forward and kneel before the cross the same way I do. When the Bishop comes, he kneels before the cross the same way as everyone else.

The time I notice this most is Maunday Thursday. Our tradition is to have a regular liturgy and then to have the liturgy of washing feet. I came from a church that had footwashing as a distinct part of its doctrine, but almost nobody did it. In our current church, we sit toward the front because when it comes time for the Lord's Supper, I just want to run up there. It's how the liturgy makes me feel. I crave the remembrance.

On Maundy Thursday, the tradition in our church looks very much like the Lord's Supper. The basins are in the front, the chairs are there, and the people just come. Unlike my previous practice, we don't pick whose feet we wash. It's whoever is there. We sit toward the front, so I have a very long time to sit and watch and reflect. The church is full and everyone comes just as they are. Some are in business suits. They come. Some are in casual clothes because they didn't work. They come. The kids come in their standard school attire. Teens come with their neon shoes and socks kicked under the pew. Medical folks come in their scrubs. They all come because we need to participate in serving each other. We need to model Christ's example. We just come.


Leigh
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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815737 is a reply to message #815707 ] Wed, 03 February 2016 07:11 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Right now, one of the reasons we are not in a church is because of my wardrobe.


Jamie, this breaks my heart. There may be good reasons in your life not to attend church. Over the years, we have taken breaks from formal church for a variety of what I would consider really good reasons throughout the years.

But sweetie, this is not one of them. Just as we cannot cleanse ourselves of our sin before we approach the Lord, so there's no need to wait until you lose weight or save up money for clothes in order to go to church. We go to worship the Lord with the Body of believers, and this statement in your post is exactly the sort of thing that makes me so angry with my fellow brothers and sisters who would exclude one of our own from worshiping the Lord because they judge outwardly. If the church you would most likely attend criticizes your wardrobe, then find another! If you aren't going because *you* feel your clothes are unworthy, then I encourage you to lay your pride at the feet of Jesus, and put on what you have, and worship Him.

Obviously, you can worship in your own home, but sweetheart, you are going through so much in your life, that I imagine you would truly benefit from simply sitting in a sanctuary and worshiping along with many other believers. At least for me, when I worship with other believers, I am drawn out of myself and remember that I am not alone. I don't have to spill my guts and share my life deeply with strangers...but to realize that we are of one Body encourages my heart without every speaking a word to anyone else there.

Maybe it's not like that for you, and you can just discard this post...but seriously, if clothing is your reason for not attending church, I strongly encourage you to find whatever feels most comfortable to you, and head to a worship service to be ministered to by the Word!


Blessings,
Lisa R.
Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815744 is a reply to message #815638 ] Wed, 03 February 2016 16:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Ah - church dress - I'm jumping in late here. (I can actually access chfweb today for some reason!

Having lived in the Midwest, the West and the South, I can honestly say that, yes, culture has a great to do with what you are comfortable wearing to church. So does age and profession. We have been in churches that were skirts only, all the time, not just at church. We have been in churches where what was warm was what you wore. We have been in lots that are in between.

I like what my Dad always said. "You give your best to the Lord, and that includes what you wear. If all you have is overalls (he was a farmer) you wear your best overalls to church on Sunday. If you have a closet full of suits that you wear to work everyday then God deserves a suit, too." Now, my Dad was 90 when he passed away and of the WWII generation, but I just think it is a good rule of thumb. We wear the best of what is appropriate for us. (No, I'm not wearing that formal hanging in my closet, but you know what I mean.)

As a pastor's wife, my husband has asked me to dress in a way that makes everyone feel comfortable, but that does not go against what I feel comfortable in. So, for me, that means a dress/suit and heels on Sunday mornings. I love to dress up and this is now my only opportunity. It is my business wear and I am doing business with God. Sunday evenings you will find me in a jean skirt or nicer slacks. Wednesdays is jeans and a cute top. We have people from every walk of life in our church and visitors from every walk of life. It is amazing how many women take their cue of what to wear from their pastor's wife. If our women are doing that, I want them to know that they can dress how ever they feel they should or however they can.

As in all things, it is a heart issue. Are we loving the Lord with all our heart, soul and mind and are we loving others as ourselves? The answer lies somewhere in there.


Bonnie
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this has been an interesting discussion. thank you ladies


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Re: Dress your best vs Come as you are ... RE: Church [message #815755 is a reply to message #815638 ] Thu, 04 February 2016 12:05 Go to previous message
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I've been thinking on this. It was honestly never an issue for me. I enjoy dressing up, but I have also never cared what anyone else wore outside of my kids.

But, I have been hearing sermons, reading things, and having discussions lately that have struck a cord with me and I think relate to this question. The issue is the ability of Christians to be honest with one another about issues they are struggling with and feelings they are having. In other words, not putting on a false front, but owning up to the fact that we are flawed individuals in need of help and comfort.

On the surface, it might not seem to relate to how we dress. But, I think that one of the issues that people have with the "dress your best" mantra is that it is often easier to hide our flaws and struggles behind nice clothes and present a fake persona.

The thing is, whether Christians "dress your best" or "come as you are", too many of us put on a false front. We hide our struggles and pain. The clothes we wear, our makeup, and hair can serve as just another way to hide our true selves from our brothers and sisters.

However, I think if we are being open and genuine in our conversation and expressions, those things become much less of an issue. A person can be dressed to the nines, but if they openly share with the church that they are dealing with depression, we stop seeing the fancy clothes and see the real person in pain behind them. And if a person comes in clothes that are torn or faded and shares that they have been having financial difficulties, we see beyond the clothes to our hurting brother or sister. In both cases we can then both pray for them and possibly offer other help.

My church has been going through a period of spiritual revival. One of the ways that I have really been seeing this happen has been in the way that we are truly bearing one another's burdens. A huge part of this has to be the willingness of individuals to open themselves up and share those burdens and not put on a mask or costume.

In the end, I think it doesn't really matter which way you choose to dress. But, I do think that if our clothes are serving as camouflage for our true selves, we are missing the point of gathering together with our brothers and sisters.


Stacy, mom to 12-year-old boy/girl twins and a three-year-old boy.

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