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How would you counsel? [message #813531] Sat, 29 August 2015 02:25 Go to next message
~Janice  is currently offline ~Janice
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When one spouse of a young married couple makes a *no children* decision after claiming the opposite before?


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Re: How would you counsel? [message #813536 is a reply to message #813531 ] Sat, 29 August 2015 13:26 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Tracy in Peru  is currently offline Tracy in Peru
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I have nothing but questions at this point... Are they Christians? and then secondly, I would really strive to understand "why" and what caused a change of heart.

The most likely scenario is that it isn't about children at all, but indicative a marital rift, which is where I would start.


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Re: How would you counsel? [message #813538 is a reply to message #813531 ] Sat, 29 August 2015 16:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
MicheleB  is currently offline MicheleB
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I have seen this in the opposite. When I was first married, there was a young couple in our church, married about 5 years, where the wife had said from the beginning, even before marriage "No children." A few years into the marriage, the husband wanted children and wasn't happy with her stance. The stance she had taken even before marriage. It didn't end well. I always felt sorry for her- people tried to make her out to be a cold-hearted ogre, but SHE was true to her word. He wasn't. It was just sad all the way around.

I think my first counsel would be for both parties to spend a lot of time in prayer- separately, together, maybe with others.


Michele
Re: How would you counsel? [message #813540 is a reply to message #813531 ] Sat, 29 August 2015 18:29 Go to previous messageGo to next message
elliemaejune  is currently offline elliemaejune
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wow.

That is grounds for an annulment in some churches.


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Re: How would you counsel? [message #813541 is a reply to message #813531 ] Sun, 30 August 2015 10:06 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I think it more common to start out thinking you don't want children, and then change your mind and decide you do. There are natural factors - maturity and ticking biological clocks - that might cause this change. But I tend to agree with Tracy about a change in the other direction, that it is likely a result of a problem in the marriage, not necessarily the cause. At least that's the first issue I'd explore.


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Re: How would you counsel? [message #813884 is a reply to message #813531 ] Tue, 22 September 2015 12:22 Go to previous messageGo to next message
denise d
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My first question would be, is someone asking for counsel?


And if that answer is yes, then I agree with Tracy.


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Re: How would you counsel? [message #813917 is a reply to message #813884 ] Thu, 24 September 2015 02:27 Go to previous message
~Janice  is currently offline ~Janice
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Christians? Yes. Not sure why the change of heart. Only one is seeking counsel - and not the one who now has a change of heart. Sad


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