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Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528661] Tue, 28 April 2009 16:31 Go to next message
Sherry in NH  is currently offline Sherry in NH
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The Safe Church Environment/Intimacy poll[ 9 vote(s) ]
1.I have never been in a safe church environment where intimacy is accurately taught and expected 5 / 56%
2.I have sometimes been in a safe church environment where intimacy is accurately taught and expected 1 / 11%
3.I have always been in a safe church environment where intimacy is accurately taught and expected 2 / 22%
4.Some combo 0 / 0%
5.Something else 1 / 11%

This, from another thread:

>I have never been in a safe church environment where intimacy is accurately taught and expected<

Here's a poll...


In Jesus

Sherry from NH
Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528663 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 16:35 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Mary Jo  is currently offline Mary Jo
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It is taught but many do not follow the words of God or the Pastor!

[Updated on: Tue, 28 April 2009 19:13]

Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528680 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 17:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Not sure what you mean by intimacy. I guess I don't understand the question.

KarlaB
Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528691 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 17:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Interesting question. I voted I have never been in a safe church environment where intimacy is accurately taught and expected.

I would be interested to know how many churches implement church discipline for explicit material or marital refusal. I've never seen or heard of a case.


Leigh
Tennessee

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Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528695 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 17:17 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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hmmmm...I don't know which other thread, but glancing at your other question, I have to say I've never been in a church that actually taught anything about marital intimacy. Is that what you're talking about?

I nearly answered that I'd been in a church where we were very close and open in our relationships and vulnerable in our prayer needs, etc.....but it seems *that* isn't what you are asking about!


Blessings,
Lisa R.
Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528711 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 17:51 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I'm with Karla. I'd have to understand what is meant by proper intimacy. As I've heard it purported, it means to live without any walls up, wearing your heart on your sleeve, being totally open and transparent. I'm not sure that Jesus did that. Not sure it's wise. So...I'd have to know more about the question.

Charity
Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528739 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 19:03 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I've been following the various threads with a good deal of interest. My first thought, and the reason I voted the way I did is because I have never heard teaching in church on marriage besides GOD HATES DIVORCE. That was thoroughly beaten into our heads and I always wondered where teaching the whole counsel of God went. Any time a spouse strayed, gossip ran rampant, "I wonder what his/her spouse did to make him/her have an affair?" Really? Since when is someone forced to have an affair? When women speak up about the use of p*rn by their husbands, the response is always, "How long has it been since you got a new nightie?" or "Do you all have a date night once a week?" I'm not minimizing those things, but the deeper teaching on marriage is just not being done. Where is the accountability on both sides?

My husband was in leadership for many years in our previous church and I know he was very frustrated at times about the reluctance to discuss something Scripture teaches. We have lost a lot of friends to divorce. That says to me the environment in the church is not a safe place for people who have a hard time in their marriages. If there is not effective teaching and counseling, where do Christians turn for help?


Leigh
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Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528746 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 19:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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From the other responses I am not sure I get your meaning Sherry?

Are you talking about fornication, adultery or intimacy between husband and wife?

If you are talking about married couples we talk about the importance of that in our church.

We have marriage classes every Friday night.

I'm not sure what you mean by expected though?
Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528754 is a reply to message #528746 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 19:41 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Mary Jo wrote on Tue, 28 April 2009 18:18

If you are talking about married couples we talk about the importance of that in our church.

We have marriage classes every Friday night.

I'm not sure what you mean by expected though?


I'm interested to know how you approach this.


Leigh
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Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528827 is a reply to message #528754 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 22:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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See my comment here:

http://chfweb.net/index.php?t=msg&th=56756&start=0&a mp;S=8aeb1d9423cb4030b4e7f13a7bf8e228


In Jesus

Sherry from NH
Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528833 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 23:19 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Sherry,

sorry that did not clear much up for me! I'm short on time so I do not have time to read through a whole other thread.
The normal expectation is really throwing me off. I do not know that that means?
Do you mean if somebody is withholding?

Leigh,

We have basic classes on marriage. We do not focus on intimacy but the subject is talked about in a an overall way.

I'm very blunt but I am also very careful about the way I say things. I use the book His Needs/Her Needs and teach women that men see intimacy much differently than we do.
We never get into details... It's just not something I am interested in knowing much about in regards to other couples.

We also focus a lot on the differences in the way men and women think and to be honest we simply teach people to act like Christians and have good character.

We do not man bash either like most popular teachings on marriage do these days.

[Updated on: Tue, 28 April 2009 23:21]

Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528845 is a reply to message #528661 ] Tue, 28 April 2009 23:58 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My previous church certainly did provide a safe and good environment and taught about appropriate marital intimacy in the pre-marital classes (which were compulsory to get married in the church). So yes. There was also "general" teaching about relationships, purity and intimate issues for the general congregation.

My current church I don't really know - since I'm married nearly 10 years now I haven't really felt the need to seek out anything like this. We do have counselling for those who need it, but I've not been involved in it at all. Knowing the counsellor though, I think it would be very well done.

I should add that although I think my old church did very well, that doesn't mean there were no marital problems! We had divorces still, bad relationships, bad feelings - people are people!

I chose #2, but it could be #3, I'm just not sure.


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Elizabby

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Re: Bunny Trail: Safe church environment poll [message #528879 is a reply to message #528746 ] Wed, 29 April 2009 08:28 Go to previous message
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Mary Jo -- I probably confused everything because I took a comment by someone in the other thread where she said she'd never been in a church that did those things...and turned it into a poll.

I guess I'm letting people self-define the terms.

[Updated on: Wed, 29 April 2009 08:53]


In Jesus

Sherry from NH
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