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Peer influences --and the influence we have on others. I've been thinking about this lately.
What messages are your peers giving you without you even realizing it? How much do your peers influence your attitudes and actions as wives and mothers?
The Bible is clear about the influence of others and the need to have godly companions. This isn't just for our children, it's for us, too. Sometimes the influences are so subtle, we don't even recognize them.
"This is how it's supposed to be done." (What foundation? Who says? Traditions? Peers? Or God's Word?")
Can we say to our children and peers, as Paul did, "Follow me as I follow Christ." If our children follow our examples (and they will to some extent or another --especially the younger they are!), how much of their lives will reflect "following Christ"?
Our examples need to be rooted and grounded in Christ. Which means our minds need to be renewed from our own peer influences and traditions of the past which have no foundation in Christ. The only way we can do this is by spending time in the Word of God, allowing His Holy Spirit to renew our minds!
Perhaps we're looking for godly examples ourselves. Trying to picture what the godly wife and mom really looks like in comparison to the way our culture depicts her --how can we discern who is following Christ and who is not if we don't know what God's Word says?
If we will allow the Lord to transform our lives through His Word by His Holy Spirit, others will indeed be able to look upon us and see something *different* about us --they will be able to discern "She has been with Jesus!"
Can your husband look at you and see that you have been with Jesus? Can your children? Can your neighbors? How about even strangers?
Once someone told me, "I haven't spent time alone with the Lord or been in His Word in ages, I've been so busy." I thought to myself, you didn't have to tell me that --it's obvious! It was obvious by the words coming out of her mouth, by her description of what she'd been going through, by the way she was talking to her children and husband, and by the way she was talking about her children and husband.
About the same time, I had a discussion with a group of women about spending time with the Lord and in His Word and several of them shared the way they disciplined themselves to have a daily quiet time, and how they were able to spend time in the Word, or listen to it throughout the day in spite of being busy with their children. You know, I was not surprised to see who did and who didn't spend regular time with the Lord and His Word. It was evident in their lives. There was a difference about those ladies who spent time with the Lord and in His Word. They had been with Jesus.
Now, if you're saved, you have Jesus within you --but to have those Living Waters flow through you in such a way that others will be able to tell you have "been with Jesus," you need to spend time with Him! You need to make His Word your priority!
Why do you suppose the enemy tries so hard to distract us and keep us from spending time in the Word? It is ALIVE. It will TRANSFORM our lives! Learning and applying His Word to our lives is the KEY to living for Him in a way that will bring Him glory! So we can know Him and enjoy Him forever and influence those around us to do the same.
Here are some scriptures relevant to this topic:
Romans 12:2 "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."
Proverbs 22:24-25 " Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul."
Proverbs 13:20 "He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed."
Ephesians 5:8-11 "... walk as children of light: (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;) proving what is acceptable unto the Lord. And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them."
Ephesians 4:17 "This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind..."
Colossians 2:6-8 "As ye have therefore received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk ye in Him: rooted and built up in Him, and stablished in the faith, as ye have been taught, abounding therein with thanksgiving. Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ."
Acts 4:13 Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were unlearned and ignorant men, they marvelled; and they took knowledge of them, that they had been with Jesus.
1 Corinthians 11:1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
(Anyone want to join me in saying, "Ouch".) Now, excuse me while I go spend some time with the Lord and in His Word! ;-)
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