by Tamara Eaton
Summer is almost upon us! Homeschooling families are busy finishing up
studies and looking forward to a change of pace. Many parents look back over
the past year and wonder, "Did I do enough? Did the children progress
well?" Others worry about too many outside activities and not enough
homeschooling. Or maybe both parents and children are burned-out from too many
formal studies and not enough time enjoying learning and being together. It's
a time of evaluation of the past year, and of looking ahead and setting new
goals for the coming year.
The ebb and flow of homeschooling often gives parents the feeling they're
not doing enough some days, and too much other days, but isn't that life? We
try to maintain a healthy balance, but sometimes our schedules need adjusting.
We want to avoid both extremes--never planning anything and letting
homeschooling "just happen" (and it mostly doesn't) or having such
rigid lesson plans that the slightest interruption throws everything out of
whack. Another danger is planning too many outside activities and having more
"road school" than "home school". All of these situations
can result in major frustration and burn-out!
There are many worthwhile subjects we can teach our children in our
homeschool, but it's impossible to cover them all. We must give them the
"tools for learning"-- the opportunity to become well-grounded
in the basics first, then teach them how to learn and research things on their
own. By keeping our homeschool joyful and as stress-free as possible, our
children will cultivate a love of learning instead of viewing it as drudgery.
One of my favorite definitions of education is by William Butler Yeats: "Education
is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire." Homeschooling
parents are busy lighting fires!
We have many years to teach our children, we don't have to cram it all
into one school year-- nor should we feel compelled to do everything on
public school timetables. So what if our child learns about space the year his
peers in public schools study animals? We should be free to explore our
children's interests in science, history and other subjects!
Our children can become independent learners as well. What if they
do have some gaps--for example, you always wanted to teach them Greek, but you
just didn't have the time? They can learn it on their own when they're older!
When they're motivated, they're able to learn it twice as fast. Maybe they
don't have "hands on" experience with dissecting cow eyeballs--if
they really want to do it, they can do it when they're grown and have their
We hear the best ideas from homeschool magazines, online sites, and support
groups. We get the "highlights", the "glorious times"; we
also get a glimpse into homeschoolers' lives when some of them are honest
enough to say, "It's not like that ALL the time." There are
challenging times, too. Sometimes the children are less than enthusiastic
about learning. Sometimes we all feel in need of a break. Sometimes we just
need a day off so we can get some laundry done!
Homeschooling is a joy even though at times learning something can be plain
hard work. But if it is sheer drudgery for them or for us, then something
is wrong--perhaps the teaching, or the materials, or even the timing.
Sometimes I have to find other ways for us to learn a subject and sometimes I
put it aside to try again later. Haven't you ever experienced a difficult time
trying to learn something, then put it aside only to come back to it later and
find you understood it perfectly? You wonder why it seemed so difficult
before. Children go through this, too!
We have been homeschooling for many years and since our youngest child is
only in first grade, we have many years ahead of us. I find I must pace
myself--that's one reason we homeschool year round in a relaxed style. The
Lord doesn't expect more from us than what He has called us to do and be. We
don't have to live up to others' expectations or compare our homeschooling
with others' experiences. We are free to seek the Lord for the best methods
that work for each individual child and for our family! What once seemed
complex now becomes simple--loving Jesus, seeking His will in our
homeschools and allowing Him to direct our steps. Only then can we be assured
that He will give us all the wisdom, strength and grace we need!
"My yoke is easy, and My burden is light." Matthew
"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness;
and all these things shall be added unto you." Matthew 6:33
"And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we
shall reap, if we faint not." Galatians 6:9
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