by Tamara Eaton
Ever notice how God's priorities aren't usually man's priorities? Man often
is tempted to do things "outside in"--because he has to
"maintain this appearance" (or what would others think?), but God
tends to do things "inside out" by taking care of our hearts and
attitudes and then having the rest fall in place. (And that method doesn't
always look pretty while work is in progress and it's certainly not always
understandable to men!)
I still have to battle the urge to explain my priorities to others and
worry about what they must think of me sometimes. For example, when someone
pops by the house unexpectedly and it's a mess but we've accomplished great
things spiritually, emotionally, academically and enjoyed learning and
spending time together. Jesus sees the inside of us and all that we
accomplished that day, and He knows we'll get to the messy house eventually.
Man sees the messy house and might not understand what all was accomplished
that day! I'm trying to get to the point where I'm not tempted to apologize or
defend my day.
When people ask me how I manage to homeschool six children
on six different levels and take care of the needs of my family, I tell them
that I have learned to set priorities and do what comes first instead of all
the things I'd "like" to do. We especially limit outside activities
right now and we don't accept a lot of invitations to get together with other
homeschooling families, although we'd like to do that more.
Sometimes I find myself feeling guilty about this, other times I wonder how
do others manage to still homeschool while they carry on so many other outside
activities, too? I have to remember not to compare myself with other
homeschool moms, but know that the Lord will give all the grace and energy to
do what I need to do, but not necessarily all the energy I need if I take on
things that He never intended for me to do in this season of my life.
By concentrating on my family now, I DO have time to "be
there" for each one of them, and we are making wonderful memories every
day! We don't do many elaborate projects together, but we talk, share
portions of good books, sing, learn, and laugh a lot as we go about our daily
I am reminded of an excellent chapter in Elisabeth Elliot's _Discipline:
The Glad Surrender_ called "The Discipline of Time". She writes
about how the sum of our job here on earth is to glorify God and how that
Jesus was able to say to His Father shortly before He was crucified, "I
have glorified Thee on earth by completing the work which thou gavest me to
do." Can't you imagine that there were endless demands on Jesus'
time? He came as a man, with a man's limitation of time and space and there
probably was so much He wanted to do, but He concentrated on doing the work
He'd been given.
Elisabeth Elliot writes, "Still He was able to make that amazing
claim, "I have finished the work You gave me to do." This was
not the same as saying He had finished everything He could possibly think of
to do or that He had done everything others had asked. He made no claim to
have done what He wanted to do. The claim was that He had done what had been
The bottom line? *There is always enough time to do the will of God.*
She goes on to say that if we're always frantic and frustrated, harried and
harassed, and "hassled,", it's a sign that we're running on our own
schedule, not God's. Jesus said *His* burden is light, and it's only when we
carry additional burdens that He never meant us to carry that weigh us down.
The whole chapter is filled with helpful insights and I highly recommend this
book. She talks about how worry robs us of time, too.
Having a large family with many responsibilities in homeschooling and
ministry has taught me that I *must* be a good steward of my time. I'm not
perfected in this area but I've sure grown a lot from the time before I had
children! I try to simplify as much as possible so I can have more time
available to spend on priorities. I want to hear His Voice and know His Will
for my life...I pray, "Lord, teach me to number my days so I might
apply my heart to wisdom." Psalm 90:12 I want to be unencumbered so I
am free to pursue what HE wants me to do.
Unless we have God's perspective and view our life in light of Eternity, we
will fail to accomplish the Lord's perfect will for our family! I pray that we
will all look to the Lord and say with the Psalmist:
"But as for me, I trust in You, O Lord; I say, "You are my
God." My times are in Your Hand..." Psalm 31:14-15
[For more encouragement, see related articles on "Managing
Our Time", "Feeling Frazzled" , "In
His Presence" and "Homeschool
Management Tips" ]
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