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Noisy play[ 48 vote(s) ]
1.allow absolutely no roughousing or noisy play in house at all whatsoever 2 / 4%
2.allow rough play, but must be done quietly 6 / 13%
3.allow your kids to go nuts and have a blast? 2 / 4%
4.allow a certain amount of noisy rough play (dh wants you to explain) 38 / 79%

Laughing Laughing Laughing
So here it is:
On a rainy day or yucky day outside and your kids have been cooped up all day, do you:

[Updated on: Tue, 14 November 2006 14:30]




Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184280 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 14:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I voted #4. We don't allow running, but noise is OK. We also allow them to wrestle in their bedroom. Sometimes I'll turn on music and let them "dance" (read: shake their bodies all around) around the living room.


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184283 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 14:36 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I have been known to turn my boys out in the rain and yuck. That doesn't stop them...they love it. Not in lightening of course...but they can run their willies out in the rain just as well as the sun...and they think it's fun.
Oh and sorry, I didn't vote...can't decide yet.

[Updated on: Tue, 14 November 2006 14:37]


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184290 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 14:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Our house isn't set up for a lot of running, but I allow a certain amount of wrestling around, and loud/semi-wild play on yucky days.

What I don't allow is hurting one another or being so out of control that they don't hear/listen to me, or that they are oblivious to what's going on around them. But there's room for a certain amount of horseplay on some occasions as long as they are wise about it. Smile


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184299 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 14:50 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I have a low tolerance for rough housing so when dh and the kids start a bout of karate sparring or some other activity I just get busy in the other room. Sib to sib rough housing is pretty non existant in our house. I have 2 teenage girls and 1 son, 11. I'm sure if I had another boy things would amp up around here, but as it is everyone is pretty self controlled.

The kids practice karate sparring and kata in the livingroom and garage. Dad engages them in sword battles and nerf basketball, but other than that, we don't have much rough housing going on.

Son has neighbor boys who have outside gun battles, fort building and sledding on a regular basis so I think his rough housing need is met through other physical outlets.


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184301 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 14:51 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I voted #4. Pretty much what Lisa R. said. We don't allow screaming, punching, or throwing anything but a certain amount of rough-housing is fine as long as they don't get out of control. They do most of their rough-housing downstairs away from the main living areas. When they get on a roll, I keep an eye on them to make sure they don't get out of control. My kids are still quite young so I feel that they should have some flexibility in this area. As they get older, I will allow less and less because there will be more chances for someone getting overly zealous.

EDITED TO ADD ONE MORE THING: Furniture of any kind is off limits. No jumping on or getting anywhere near the furniture. That is why we encourage them to play downstairs because it is far away from the main living areas and nice furniture.

[Updated on: Tue, 14 November 2006 15:13]


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184309 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 14:58 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My boys are now 15 and 19 with the 19yo leaving home soon. We've traded one type of noise for another! LOL! Smile

But when they were little, I allowed very little wildness in the home. For several reasons...

1)It never ended up anywhere good. Something got broken. Someone got hurt. Or a feud broke out.

2)It made me insane. 'nuff said.

3) I didn't buy into the "boys will be boys" school of parenting. I didn't believe that part of being male was being out of control, obnoxious, loud, disorderly, wild, destructive, and irritating. Smile Jumping on the furniture and running through the house overturning chairs and tables is not good stewardship of what DH has provided for us.

4) I believed that certain behaviors have certain arenas. Loud and physical play is for outdoors. I think home should be serene, peaceful and restorative.

That said...we did allow our kids to have fun. They played imaginatively. Sometimes that got "exuberant" but I didn't let it slide over into wild.

Now our family can get loud at times. We were playing Taboo the other evening and it got VERY loud. Smile But we were all having fun together and laughing so hard we were falling out of our chairs. That is different from one person trying to read while someone else is screaming nearby and jumping up and down on the couch.

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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184332 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 15:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I voted #4. When the kids were small, much of the rough, noisy play was with my husband. It sounded like someone was getting killed. The kids would shriek bloody murder and I would step to intervene -- that is until I saw the kids run right back to Daddy, leap on him and say, "Do it again!" After a few episodes like that, I just ignored their pleas for help.

It does get pretty crazy around here with prankish behavior. I have mixed feelings about it.
Lynda
Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184362 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 16:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Well, since my kids are teens, it is kind of hard to answer that one! There isn't an option for: no, you can't kill you sister; no you can't smash your brother over the head with his guitar; no, no airsoft guns in the house! Laughing Laughing

So, I guess if I were to answer the poll, it would be no roughousing in the house at all, they are just TOO BIG! Laughing Laughing Laughing

Edited to say: I agree with 100% of what Charity said! I probably should have read first, posted second, but didn't. She really states my thoughts in her so very eloquent way! And yes, we've traded one type of noise (play) for another type (electric guitar, acoustic guitar, electric bass, piano)! Sometimes, I do have to ask one or both of them to stop the practicing until the other is done with school, or at least put headphones on so no one else can hear them!

[Updated on: Tue, 14 November 2006 16:09]


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184427 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 18:27 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I agree with Charity, however, we have an only girl, and she did not have a tendency to be rough. Still, we like our fun, so while we weren't really rough, there was a certain amount silliness but it never got out of hand.

If we had more than one child, I think I would have sent them outside for certain levels of play. The fruit of the Spirit is self control, and we are to be good stewards of what we have. Really wild, rough play can wait until the children are outdoors.


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184431 is a reply to message #184427 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 18:38 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My husband says that I am not allowed to vote cause I am deaf! Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing

Dh votes #2. Son wants to vote #3. Rolling Eyes I'd say rough housing allowed to an extent with some caution, and as noisy as their hearts desire! Very Happy (when dh is at work)

[Updated on: Tue, 14 November 2006 18:39]




Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184446 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 19:00 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I voted #4. But, I was wondering, is it really possible to roughhouse quietly? Shocked Laughing

Usually, it's quite sane around here. We don't allow running and screaming, for the most part anyway.

But, I have to share a secret with you. The worst when it comes to horseplay are my dh and our 21 yo ds! Shocked Oh, my goodness, I'm afraid that I'll have no house left one day. (Keep in mind that we have a small house!) Then if our 20 yo ds gets in on it, too, it's even worse! Of course, the four youngest ones are all yelling and screaming at this point. (You see, it's dh that instigates all this! Laughing )


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184447 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 19:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I voted for #4...no rough play but noise. After DS got rowdy and was jumping around in his 2nd floor bedroom and the china in the 1st floor china cabinet began to rattle and topple over breaking 3 or 4 pieces of my 100 year old antique china we ended rough play in the house. DH's office is part of the family room in the basement. He says that the computer equipment and electronics are too expensive to replace if DS is jumping around and accidently breaks something there. Noise is another issue as DH and DS have hearing issues and need to play music, tv, etc. loud in order to hear it.


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184461 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 19:34 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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exuberant play can get noisy fast, especially with airplaines, sirens, construction noises, cowboys, Indians, battleships, etc, etc. that goes with the imaginations of four boys from 7 to 2.

We try and keep in under control, or we go insane. Good, imaginative play is fine, football is done outside, no screaming just to scream. Usually it is fine and getting to *wild* is like the warning that an injury is coming. Somedays though, just the normal dull roar drives me bonkers, and they are sent outside.


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184468 is a reply to message #184446 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 19:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Diane in NM wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 18:00

(You see, it's dh that instigates all this! Laughing )


I've found the answer to this! You get a trampoline with a fence, but it's not for jumping. Think of it as a giant playpen for overgrown boys. LOL! Dh and the two boys would go out there and thrash around. It was perfect. There's no china cupboards. No lamps. No coffee table corners on which to slice skulls. They can body slam each other and the tramp gives more than a floor does. And if they do a throw, there's a netting to fly into instead of sheetrock thru which to put an elbow.

The day the tramp was gifted to the neighbors was a very sad one for me.... Twisted Evil Twisted Evil

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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184478 is a reply to message #184468 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 19:58 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Charity wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 17:43

Diane in NM wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 18:00

(You see, it's dh that instigates all this! Laughing )


I've found the answer to this! You get a trampoline with a fence, but it's not for jumping. Think of it as a giant playpen for overgrown boys. LOL! Dh and the two boys would go out there and thrash around. It was perfect. There's no china cupboards. No lamps. No coffee table corners on which to slice skulls. They can body slam each other and the tramp gives more than a floor does. And if they do a throw, there's a netting to fly into instead of sheetrock thru which to put an elbow.

The day the tramp was gifted to the neighbors was a very sad one for me.... Twisted Evil Twisted Evil

Charity


You mean you got rid of it? Shocked Are your dh and boys through "playing" around with each other already? Goodness, I just figured they'd still have a lot of good years left! Laughing

But, I think the Lord blessed me with these youngest four kids. There's only one boy among them! Twisted Evil Laughing


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184480 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 20:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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We have wrestling matches, AKA "War", Tickle Time, and sometimes some loud fun, but the majority of noise is only allowed upstairs in the playroom or outdoors. I'm trying very hard to stifle the "running gene" my husband has cursed upon our children(he's a distance runner), the only way my kids know how to get from point A to point B is to run Laughing!
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Polly wrote on Wed, 15 November 2006 06:36

...but they can run their willies out in the rain just as well as the sun...and they think it's fun.


Umm - are "willies" what I think they are? Shocked "Willies" in Australia refers to boy bits, but I can't imagine "running them out" in the rain - wouldn't they get cold? Sounds like a Hornblower naval book - "run out the guns"! But "run out the willies" doesn't sound the same... Laughing


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184496 is a reply to message #184274 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 21:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My goodness...my husband is usually the instigator and it ususally begins when he teases somebody then waits till they notice-then it is a free for all. We like to have spontenaity (sp?) and laughter in our home and want our kids to remember that. But we aren't always loud and obnoxious either, just some of both.

If you are the mood for a funny story read on.
My husband left one afternoon and my son (about 6 at the time) and I were in the front yard. I screamed at him now you're mine and started chasing him wildly around the yard. Well, we live out in the country so this okay but at the time a very handsome man about five years older then went jogging by, heard me, saw us and watched while I tackled my son and tickled him, let him excape and captured him again. Okay, it was a little boy thing, not really a mom thing and not something I usually do. He kept jogging by, laughing now and I was really embarassed but proceeded of course because I had already lost an decourum I ever had. Embarassed

I forgot to mention when my kids were too loud and wouldn't stop running or rough housing when I needed them too I made them run on their knees. A couple times through the hard wood floors calmed them right down!

[Updated on: Tue, 14 November 2006 21:04]


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Re: What are "willies"?? [message #184497 is a reply to message #184482 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 21:04 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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elizabby wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 20:05

Polly wrote on Wed, 15 November 2006 06:36

...but they can run their willies out in the rain just as well as the sun...and they think it's fun.


Umm - are "willies" what I think they are? Shocked "Willies" in Australia refers to boy bits, but I can't imagine "running them out" in the rain - wouldn't they get cold? Sounds like a Hornblower naval book - "run out the guns"! But "run out the willies" doesn't sound the same... Laughing

Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing

Um, no, it's not the same here. Actually, I wouldn't use "willies" in that sentence, but basically she means "excess energy," I believe!

Those cultural things between various English-speaking countries can be quite funny--like the time our Australian friend came to visit and my dd took her to Walmart. The friend asked where the "thongs" were and couldn't understand my dd's surprised look until they figured out that in Australia thongs are sandals with no back and a thing between your first two toes--our flip flops. And in America when one refers to, um, s*xy underwear. Smile


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Yep, I grew up calling them thongs (the sandles) until my daughter started to get embarrassed. Now at 16 she is trying to re-educated me. Laughing


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My dh usually instigates the rough housing in our home. I voted number 4. It usually starts with dh and ends up with the dog chasing everyone (especially ds) around the house while the cats and I try to stay out of the way. Marshmallows are ammunition around here and NOT a tasty treat (at least not all the time). According to dh, the big ones are regular bullets and a handful of the smaller ones is the equivalent of shotgun pellets. Nerf guns do end up in the house, also instigated by dh. The occasional water fight will also start, but it quickly gets moved outside. Rolling Eyes


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Re: What are "willies"?? [message #184535 is a reply to message #184497 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 22:22 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Lisa R. wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 19:04

elizabby wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 20:05

Polly wrote on Wed, 15 November 2006 06:36

...but they can run their willies out in the rain just as well as the sun...and they think it's fun.


Umm - are "willies" what I think they are? Shocked "Willies" in Australia refers to boy bits, but I can't imagine "running them out" in the rain - wouldn't they get cold? Sounds like a Hornblower naval book - "run out the guns"! But "run out the willies" doesn't sound the same... Laughing

Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing

Um, no, it's not the same here. Actually, I wouldn't use "willies" in that sentence, but basically she means "excess energy," I believe!

Those cultural things between various English-speaking countries can be quite funny--like the time our Australian friend came to visit and my dd took her to Walmart. The friend asked where the "thongs" were and couldn't understand my dd's surprised look until they figured out that in Australia thongs are sandals with no back and a thing between your first two toes--our flip flops. And in America when one refers to, um, s*xy underwear. Smile



Well, that's what we called them when I was a kid, so it's not just Australia, Lisa! Laughing (The "thongs" I meant!!!) Does flip-flops still work?

[Updated on: Tue, 14 November 2006 22:24]


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Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184553 is a reply to message #184478 ] Tue, 14 November 2006 23:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Yeppers, Diane! Smile We needed to clear out the space to build a garage and it really was getting unsafe for them all to be thrashing on it at their sizes. The three of them together is well in excess of 500 pounds. LOL! The neighbor is a single Mom with 3 small kids. They were ecstatic. Smile

And no, they're not done thrashing yet and my china is once again endangered...

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Jules wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 19:02

We have wrestling matches, AKA "War", Tickle Time, and sometimes some loud fun, but the majority of noise is only allowed upstairs in the playroom or outdoors. I'm trying very hard to stifle the "running gene" my husband has cursed upon our children(he's a distance runner), the only way my kids know how to get from point A to point B is to run Laughing!


Jules - off-topic, but I just noticed that you're from Eugene, Oregon. That is where I grew up! Smile I graduated from Churchill High School - too many years ago to mention. LOL! Smile

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"a certain amount..." And here's why. I grew up with only sisters and was not used to boy's rough housing. I have two sons - 13yo and 20yo. They like to wrestle and run around. It was really hard when my now 20yos was a toddler to allow him to run and jump in the house. I have wayyyyy!! relaxed over the years.

However, I don't make the rest of us miserable and they have limits, lots!! They are not to throw things in a room where something could break. They are to be reasonable with what they toss about (not rocks or knives!!) but small, lighter weight balls or other objects. They can run but not knock anyone down. They can be loud but not if someone else objects.

They do handstands, hand walking, arm wrestling but not full body wrestling because they are too big for our living space.

Any of this abruptly stops if dh or I say! And, though it's not constant, I do believe I see (or hear) a little bit everyday. Smile

I'll be really sad when my house is quiet. Crying or Very Sad Crying or Very Sad


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I would let them play hard, only reigning them in if it looks like property damage might be imminent. Boys especially need to get the energy out. Our basement futons often got flipped into the floor to make wrestling mats, etc. when we lived in places where the weather was too harsh most of the year to get outside and they were too old for indoor playspots.

kinda like Janice.

Another thing I would do, if this was available and when they are little guys, would be to take them to an indoor play place, even a fast food one, and let them run themselves ragged.

[Updated on: Wed, 15 November 2006 10:18]


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Charity wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 20:44

Jules wrote on Tue, 14 November 2006 19:02

We have wrestling matches, AKA "War", Tickle Time, and sometimes some loud fun, but the majority of noise is only allowed upstairs in the playroom or outdoors. I'm trying very hard to stifle the "running gene" my husband has cursed upon our children(he's a distance runner), the only way my kids know how to get from point A to point B is to run Laughing!


Jules - off-topic, but I just noticed that you're from Eugene, Oregon. That is where I grew up! Smile I graduated from Churchill High School - too many years ago to mention. LOL! Smile

Charity


It can't be that long ago, what are you, 28-29 years old? Very Happy

We've only lived here 3 years, but we're not going anywhere anytime soon, we really like it.

What a coincidence,my sister lives in Alaska! Big Lake, I think it's called. Maybe you can "accidentally" run into her and possibly "just happen to" witness to her... Cool
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I chose #4

We have 2 boys, 5 and 6, and most of the time the roughousing a noise is them, but sometimes our 9yo daughter joins in. The LOVE when daddy gets down on the floor and flips them around and tickles them and chases them. No matter how many times he gets the best of them, they still come running back for more. My 6yo tends to get hurt a bit easier then the 5yo, so usually he's the first one to quit. Our 5yo knows no fear is is VERY rough and tumble. He was raised by hubby alone for first 2 years of his life so that accounts for most of it.

I don't mind if my boys wrestle around as long as an adult is there to referee, they very easily get out of hand. A lot of times, one will inadvertently hurt the other and the other will retaliate and then it's time out cause it will escalate into a fight. They are not allowed to run in the house, or screech and scream very loudly unless we are having family playtime and there is no one who might be disturbed by the chaos.

Hub likes to let the kids play in rain when it's warm out, but I'm always worried they'll get sick or overly muddy! So I usually am the one who says ok, enough, time to come in!

I prefer some quiet moments in my home, but I rarely get them. With 3 kids in a 1200 sq ft house, noise is enevitable!


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icon7.gif  Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184926 is a reply to message #184274 ] Wed, 15 November 2006 18:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Lori(MI)  is currently offline Lori(MI)
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I voted #4

Long as no one gets hurt in the wrestling part......I think it's ok...
no yelling or screaming......(gets on mama's nerves) but laughter and singing is terrific and encouraged! Very Happy

Playing games......but no running.....
Hide and seek or board games are always fun!

I know the weather can be nasty to be out in......

I like building "forts" with blankets and chairs......mazes if you can do that too..........fun stuff!

Lori
Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #184984 is a reply to message #184792 ] Wed, 15 November 2006 20:09 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Charity  is currently offline Charity
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Jules - I graduated in 1978. I'll let you do the math. Wink Big Lake is about 20 minutes north from here. One of my son's close friends lives there.

Charity
Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #185101 is a reply to message #184274 ] Thu, 16 November 2006 00:04 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Jondy  is currently offline Jondy
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I voted #4 also. We don't like running in the house (house is to small anyways) We let the boys rough house a bit, they really don't have the space in their bedroom. They can have music on, sing dance and be silly. My husbands big thing is not pushing into walls doors etc..
Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #185118 is a reply to message #184274 ] Thu, 16 November 2006 02:26 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Laura Scholz  is currently offline Laura Scholz
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I voted #4. I'm not fond of noise and rough-housing, but I'll allow a certain amount. The wildest times at our house happen when our friends' two boys come over (age 6 & 9). They'll be coming over for a couple hours next Tuesday, and tonight the six of them were excitedly planning their activities. Rolling Eyes Their game of choice is "cops." It involves at least one of them being the "bad guy," with the "good guys" chasing them through the house, hollering for them to stop. My favorite part is when our friends' 9 yo is reading them their rights (his grandpa is a police officer), and he says, "You have the right to a main silence." Laughing

After a certain amount of this game though, I can't take the noise any more, and I'll tell them to find something else to play for a while. Now if dh is home, he'll stop them right away and tell them to play quietly and stop running through the house! Twisted Evil The last thing he wants when he comes home from work is to have the kids running around shrieking like wild things. Laughing

I don't allow hitting, punching, kicking, etc., they aren't allowed to slam doors, and they definitely aren't allowed to jump on, over, or off of the furniture.


In Him,
Laura Scholz
Wife to Duane
Mom to Daniel (18 ), Lynne (17), Cora (15), and Jeremy (13)
Estrogen needed [message #185437 is a reply to message #184274 ] Thu, 16 November 2006 20:52 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Sparrow's Song
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Well, I can say, I live in a house with dh and 2 boys. I NEED SOME ESTROGEN IN THIS HOUSE! Boys are sooooooo..... not girls. Laughing Shocked Laughing Give me some nail polish and tea parties anyday. I've had a lot to get used to, with all the sound effects, wrestling, crashes, and just noise. It does tend to drive me bonkers.

What I usually allow is for them to play "rough" without anyone or anything getting broken/hurt/mad. If it's nice outside, I'll send them out to get their energy out.

One of my favorite memories, though, is when dss were 4 and 2, I woke up one morning to the sounds of "Hee-yaaaaa!" in the living room. Dh was wrestling with both boys in the living room and they were having the time of their lives.


Blessings,
Sparrow's Song

Love divine has seen and counted
Every tear it caused to fall;
And the storm which Love appointed
Was its choicest gift of all...

Re: Husband wants me to start a poll.. [message #185762 is a reply to message #184274 ] Fri, 17 November 2006 19:55 Go to previous message
Christine (in MD)
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I have 4 sons within 4 years, the oldest is only 12. I am just the kind of person who cannot deal with noise. If they want to be loud and run around it's ONLY done OUTSIDE...rain, snow, cold, no matter. The inside of our home is not a jungle gym.
For some weird reason, I noticed that my boys got hurt more often while rough housing inside the house than when going outside.

Just my vote,
Christine
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