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On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148831] Tue, 08 August 2006 23:04 Go to next message
Elizabby  is currently offline Elizabby
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Wearing a cross[ 37 vote(s) ]
1.I always wear a cross as part of my witness 1 / 3%
2.I always wear a cross as part of my identity 3 / 8%
3.I always wear a cross for another reason 3 / 8%
4.I often wear a cross 1 / 3%
5.I sometimes wear a cross 17 / 46%
6.I wear a cross when I want to make a particular statement 0 / 0%
7.I never wear a cross (please tell me why) 8 / 22%
8.I don't wear any jewellery apart from a wedding ring 4 / 11%

I have been wondering about wearing a cross necklace at work. I started wearing this cross about five years ago as part of my witness, and it has started some good conversations.

OTOH, I am now in professional counselling in a secular counselling service. People coming here are choosing a government counselling service, and I don't know if I should be wearing my personal religious views too visibly.

Two patients in particular of mine have religious issues, so I have started taking my cross off when I see them - it makes it easier for them to talk if they think I am not going to be judgemental. I guess I wonder if I should be taking it off all the time in my current role?

Any thoughts?


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Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148852 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 02:59 Go to previous messageGo to next message
~Janice  is currently offline ~Janice
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I used to wear a cross necklace, years ago, but do not wear any jewellery now. I don't wear a wedding ring either.
Just recently I have begun to wear earrings occassionally. And, I wear my wedding ring occassionally.

My reasons for not wearing the cross or other jewellery has nothing to do with my Christian opinion on the subject. I just don't like feeling the jewellery. Rolling Eyes

My reason for not wearing my wedding rings is that I lost them on a ski trip years ago and after getting them back two weeks later I was afraid of losing them.

[Updated on: Wed, 09 August 2006 03:00]


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Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148854 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 04:22 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Jamie
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On a completely utilitarian level, I don't wear necklaces because I have a "fat" neck and most chains don't give me the length that I would need. Having said that, I would not wear one because of growing up with a mom who was Christian, but was blown about by every fad, pseudo-Christian wind that came by. She wore a cross and a crucifix when I was little - put it off for a few decades and then when she got the "bug" for Church again (during another fadish time for Christian publications) purchased another Crucifix to wear at work specifically because it both matched her burgeoning zeal for things religious (though the Bible never came into fashion) *and* because she wanted to witness to a coworker with whom she was friendly (a Jewish gentleman - and even though I begged her not to wear the crucifix but take her cross if she *must* have something, she refused and then saw it as some sort of "daring" rather than something that could hinder the message of the cross itself in this gentleman's life. So, long story short...bad association with that particular message placed on the neck if it is being done for others to see.

This might sound a little hypocritical, but I do have two things that I do wear, that are rarely noticed by others...and when they are, it is a sweet conversation because they discovered and asked about it rather than me waving a banner. (Note: They already know my faith long before they see my pieces.) I have a ring that used to belong to my father (he doesn't wear jewelry...mom bought it a dozen years ago during one of her kicks...and it fits on my middle finger...I have fat fingers, too, LOL). It has the Alpha Omega symbol on it. So when asked about that symbol, I have the whole Genesis and Messianic prophecies I can tell them, or I can focus on God Himself, or I can discuss both the Law and sin and our need of salvation...it gives me a lot of jumping off places and I can use what I know about them to their advantage. On my tennis shoes, I have a rectangular piece of metal that fits at the base of the shoestring. The metal has a simple ICHTUS (aka "Jesus Fish")carved. Surprisingly, even with all the Jesus Fish bumper stickers out there, a lot of people I run into don't know the meaning behind it...which is another jumping off point for me to talk with them.


Peace
Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148871 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 06:38 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Elizabby,I teach in a public school. I always wear a small silver cross. It is not very conspicuous and sometimes fits under the neckline of my shirt, so it doesn't always show.

Young people notice everything, and I'm sure they notice that I wear a cross! Because I teach in a public school, I don't discuss my religion unless a student asks. But I do pray for my students, and on a rare occasion, when the situation warrants it, I may tell a student that I am praying for them.

The school day doesn't allow a lot of opportunity for witnessing to students except by example, but when kids ask about my cross I invite them to come talk to me later if they wish.

I also do not hesitate to discuss scriptural allusions in my field. Chemistry has several...St. Matthew's rule; Job's method of infinite variation....So I will discuss what the scripture reference is in that context. (It usually gives me a pretty good idea of who studies Scripture, anyway! Turns out that in my community the most scripturally knowledgeable kids are usually the Catholics Shocked.)

Lisa


Lisa T.
Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148904 is a reply to message #148871 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 09:03 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Michele (Queen of Cheap)  is currently offline Michele (Queen of Cheap)
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Very interesting question. I am not a jewelry person anyway. I wear a watch, a pair of very small stud earrings and my wedding band. (I only own the one pair of earrings!)

But back to the cross... I have never been much on wearing a cross to show the world that I am a Christian. There are a couple of reasons for that. One of the biggest is that many heathens (for a lack of a better word) wear crosses. You see outwardly sinful people wear them all the time including many very public figures like entertainers. I cetainly don't want to be identified with them. The wearing of the cross really doesn't mean that much anymore because of this.

Another reason is I hope that the way I live my life and how I conduct myself in public that people will notice I am different without me having to advertise.


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Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148905 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 09:06 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My dh bought me a small gold cross necklace years ago when we were dating. I only wear it when it goes with my outfit, usually to church. I don't wear much jewelry anymore. I did wear more when I went off to work everyday years ago. I usually only wear a pair of small earrings, my wedding rings, a ring dh bought me for my birthday a long time ago and my watch, also a gift from dh.


Lisa

Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148911 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 09:15 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I wear a cross, but I put down that I wear it for another reason. The reason? My dh bought it for me when we became engaged and wrote a meaningful message in the card. It's a symbol of our relationship to me rather than a symbol of Christ. It's not big and usually I wear it beneath my clothes. It's gold with diamonds in two channels. I've never thought about wearing it as a statement of my faith, I would hope my life speaks to that more.

Other jewelery... a three diamond drop necklace dh got for me that is slightly smaller than the cross and has a smaller chain so it sits above the cross, my wedding ring, watch, and my earrings, usually the pair that dh bought me when we first got married. Plus I wear an emerald and diamond ring I found one day. It is worth over $400!, and yes, I watched for lost and found ads to see if it was reported lost and one never showed up. I was told by police that if it were not reported within a month I could keep it.


Teri in AZ

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Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148914 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 09:16 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I don't wear one because I don't have one. Would I wear it? Daily? Can't say. I have a necklace that I wear almost everyday because dh gave it to me.

Jewelry? I wear wedding ring, birthstone ring on right hand, watch, earrings and necklace. Everything is very basic and small. I'm not a flashy person and can't stand a bracelet! They pull the hair on my arm! Shocked

I agree with Michele. One of the things that really turned me off to even considering a cross necklace is when I heard Madonna in an interview talk about why she was wearing her cross (it was huge!) She said she was making a statement of her beliefs. Hmm? Raised Catholic, professes Kabalaism (sp), and does what she does! Shocked I just pray that the TRUTH she has heard will begin to be revealed to her and she'll come to know Christ as her Savior, not just another religion.
Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148946 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 10:09 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My issue here would be removing something that represents my belief in order to appease somebody else. I can understand not wearing a ring or watch in a manufacturing situation for your safety's sake but I will not remove somethig in order to make someone else feel comfortable. I feel that is compromising.


Melissa in GA
Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148985 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 12:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I don't wear a cross because I don't have one.


Leigh
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Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #148998 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 12:40 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I, too, put down I wear a cross for another reason. After a really bad time in our marriage DH (who had never, to that time bought me any jewelry other than my wedding and engagement rings) bought me a necklace. He said he bought the cross because it symbolized our beliefs and how much Christ loves us. He wanted a special one (it's made of sapphires and diamonds) to remind me of how much he loves me and how God worked in our lives to keep us together. It's also a symbol of his committment to me. I've worn it every day since (it's now 10 years) and never take it off. Mostly I wear it under my tops (because it's really a 'private' piece of jewelry) but ocassionally I wear it to show.

My other jewelry...simple earrings, a watch, my wedding and engagement rings, and a lovely sapphire and diamond ring DH gave me for Christmas this year.

[Updated on: Wed, 09 August 2006 12:43]


Mairi
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Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #149015 is a reply to message #148904 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 13:23 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Michele (Queen of Cheap) wrote on Wed, 09 August 2006 08:03


You see outwardly sinful people wear them all the time including many very public figures like entertainers. I cetainly don't want to be identified with them.



One time at the store the young man at the register had on an upside-down cross. He also was pierced and tatooed...you know the statement he was trying to make!

"Oh," I said cheerfully. "You have on the cross of St. Peter! Wasn't he crucified upside-down because he didn't feel worthy of dying the way Jesus did? Do you have a special admiration for him?"

"Well....no....that's not what it means..." he muttered.

I just blithely ignored him, and told him it was so nice to meet a young man who had an appreciation for church history! Laughing

Later I had him as a student. Despite his outward appearance, he turned out to be a very nice young man (although not Christian). I just pretended we had never had the encounter. I imagine it made him think a bit about how he uses powerful symbols, though. He did stop wearing the cross....


Lisa T.
Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #149018 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 13:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Lisa T., cool story. You are bold.

The reason I voted I don't wear one (besides that I don't wear any jewelry because I have young childen who might get scratched or who might pull it off), is because I am not so bold to witness in that way to everyone. I am a bit afraid I will be persecuted for my faith with the person not even getting a chance to hear a word from me.
Also, I don't want to be a bad witness if I happen to do something irrational one day and happen to be wearing a cross at the same time. BTW, I don't have a fish on the back of my van either.
Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #149023 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 14:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I wear the same gold necklace with an unusual cross (it is a small gold oval with a small cross cut out of the middle of it) every day. It doesn't make a huge statement and it isn't 'in the face' of the people that stand in front of me. I don't wear it specifically to witness or as a statement, but it has opened up for me to share bits of my faith to people who have commented on the simplicity and unusual-ness of it.

By the way, I've never seen another cross like it, and probably won't. My friend brought it back from Cypress back in 1989 or 1990, and gave it to me.


Blessings!
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My grandmother bought me a cross necklace [message #149095 is a reply to message #148831 ] Wed, 09 August 2006 17:58 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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about two years ago. She wanted to buy each grandaughter a piece of jewelry to remember her buy when she is gone. She took me shopping and together we picked out my necklace, a white gold cross with diamond accents, very delicate and tasteful. I could have picked anything, but I had wanted a cross for awhile. I wanted it to remember, remember that I am a sinner saved by grace, remember that God loves me, remember that Jesus has redeemed me with His blood on that cross.
Now I still have my grandmother, and hopefully will for quite some time, but I will someday remember her and our special relationship too. I wear my necklace all the time, and she is pleased with that.


Leslie
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Re: On wearing a cross necklace...(question and poll) [message #150051 is a reply to message #148831 ] Sun, 13 August 2006 15:57 Go to previous message
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I am not a jewlery type person usually. I wear my wedding rings, watch, and occasionally earrings. DH bought me a beautiful cross necklace for Mothers Day in 1999. It is a gold cross with small Mikimoto Pearls lining it. It is on a very delicate chain and the cross is not big at all. I mostly wear it to church. I may wear it out on special occasions.


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